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The Wrong Person.. We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for? You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, This is the problem I want to have. — Galway Kinnell  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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Yes we all have some baggage for sure. And of course you should be selective about whose baggage you want to help carrying. But many people also use this as excuse to never commit themselves anymore which I think while not wrong (wrong is just a judgmental concept that has little real value) is surely a loss in opportunities to live for real. Life is not about avoiding pains but everybody is allowed to choose.  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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2/2/2020 7:19 am |
I look at it much differently. I think there is a lot of flavors of right and a lot of it depends on timing. We are complex and right one time may not be as right at another time. I feel it is best to always look at things in a positive manner. Also, many people are still looking for one right just because our society is set up that way. Polyamorous relationships can be very fulfilling and they take the pressure off people of having to be the end all for another. Unfortunately, our society is harsher on polyamorous behavior than kink behavior which is saying something..
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"The right wrong person"......now isn't that the truth
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So in my opinion, everyone has baggage, problems, etc..I suppose what it suggests is that you need to find someone whos worth carrying the load for.
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So in my opinion, everyone has baggage, problems, etc..I suppose what it suggests is that you need to find someone whos worth carrying the load for. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Hmmm, I like that idea and would agree with most of it. the comment from funcommondom does make me wonder if he has more inside knowledge  , but I do see how you might have intended it.The question if we are wong or not may not be that important, the fact exists that nobody is perfect and everyone has several pains in his soul that he carries with him or her. These pains do want to be healed and much of what we encounter in life is our subconciousness trying to steer us into situations that have the potential to heal them. The possible problem with that is that it is subconscious and hence pretty fuzzy and sometimes misguided by our own believes.
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Not sure I agree with you on that. I feel there is nothing wrong with me. I know what I want and if the man or women does not fill my needs or want's there wrong for me and me them. everybody has different needs and wants. the hard part if finding one's with the needs and wants that will mine. in turn fill there's
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2/2/2020 5:43 am |
The question may not be as much about the rightness or wrongness of the person as it is that you've become so comfortable keeping everyone at arms length. Keeping relationships brief, You've learned to live with the anguish as long as it involves you . . And you realize that letting a new one in could mean letting an old one go. We both know we can't do that, can we jaded?
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Great, interesting writing, need to have to think this through..... The right wrong person, he?
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Interesting ..."Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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