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Humiliation... I’ve learned to accept a lot of things about myself through power exchange. I am a pain slut and associate pain with love. I crave a tremendous amount of attention, and when I don’t get it my insecurities rear their ugly heads. I’m even a ‘little’ at times, which is an identity I swore I would never partake in. However, there is something about my identity as a submissive that I still really struggle with, however, and that’s my desire to be humiliated. All my life I’ve been building an identity for myself. Adding and subtracting things over the years until my self-image came into focus. I still reshape the edges, but the core of how I see myself remains the same. I am stronger than I often feel. I’ve shown myself time and again, and now I believe it. I am intelligent. It doesn’t make me superior, but it is a strength that I can use to my advantage. I am beautiful. Not because I am more attractive than average, but because there is beauty in every person, both physical and otherwise, and I choose to see my own. How can I reconcile this vision of myself with being a woman who craves humiliation? There is a fine line between humiliation and abuse. Erotic humiliation comes from a place of respect, and affection. Abuse comes from a belief that someone is truly lesser. My Dominant humiliates me, not because he believes I am lesser, but from a place of love and respect. He humiliates me, and by doing so he gives me a chance to demonstrate the extremes I am willing to go to for him and my trust in him. Being able to please him this way doesn’t tear me down, it builds me up. It reaffirms my commitment to him, and to being someone worthy of him. Humiliation stimulates the same regions of the brain as physical pain. Each time I allow him to degrade me, to say things, or act in ways, that are contrary to my self-image, I am demonstrating my trust. Each time he makes me blush, and I allow it, I cede a bit of control to him. I surrender my power until I can reach a state of helpless. He brings me to a place of release, where I can find freedom in the lack of power, in the absence of responsibility and control. His humiliation, like pain, is a gift to me. One given affectionately, not to tear me down, but to bring me to the sacred place of helplessness that I crave at my core. instructor144~  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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I think you have a point, my friend. Thank you "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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There are some women who like humiliation because they do feel inferior. (I've dated one.) She was abused when young, and she associates the humiliation with affection.
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ali This is another wonderful picture  I found this explanation very interesting Thank you for posting A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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this part in particular: Each time he makes me blush, and I allow it, I cede a bit of control to him. I surrender my power until I can reach a state of helpless.
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  As you may know, M, humiliation as a means of bringing her to fulfillment is at the core of D/s for me.
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Your so right again, I too love and need pain. I have ,any people give me pain over the yrs. I feel much better when the person who's giving it me to please me. more then pleasing themselves. I have learned to tell when that happens and put a stop to it and just go home.
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well written as always! can easily replace "she and her" with "he and him". As a male sub this truly hits home with me too!
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This piece hits close to home with me. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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