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The Growing, Not Waiting, Game. On being single and knowing your "Why". I’m single. I’m a submissive. Sometimes I experience what I call “sub-sad” - that ache that is unique to being a submissive single. I’ve learned to use my time as a single woman to really explore myself and my “Why”. I’m consistently preaching self-awareness. I share my lessons learned in my personal writing. I’m not pining for or imagining my future Dominant. I’m not writing nor kneeling to an imaginary form of a Dominant who has yet to enter into my life (or make himself known to me). My focus isn’t on him; it is on myself. I’m growing. My belief is that the better I know myself, the better. Period. I’m on a constant quest to know myself – the why’s and hows of my being as they relate to my environment and others. The better I know myself, the more apt I am to make choices that promote my well-being and future. The better I know myself, the less likely I am to fall for the wrong Dom (again), and the more likely I am to be an exceptional submissive when I next choose to submit. So, no, I’m not waiting. I’m fully engaged in a joyful and meaningful life. I’m also dating vanilla again. I’d stopped because it seemed like a waste of time and unfair to men who, quite frankly, cannot manage me. But the reality is that if I’m not exploring my self-knowledge as it applies to interactions with the opposite sex, it is kinda wasted knowledge because it isn’t being put to practical use – after all, I want my Dominant to be someone I actually do things within the real world. I’m growing as a human being, as a woman, and as a submissive. I’m not the same woman I was at 40 and I’m damn sure not the same woman I was in my 30’s. I’m learning my strengths, my anxiety triggers, my fears, things that bring me peace, and I’m redefining my hopes. I’m soaring into the beauty of self-acceptance. My very recent realization that I am a bit of a little caused me some internal discomfort – how can I be that on top of everything else that makes me different and how does that impact my future….hell, how did it impact past relationships!?! These are the kinds of things I strive to understand. Not just for myself, but for my future Dominant. Self-knowledge allows me to articulate myself and my needs to others. That ability is particularly important when contemplating allowing someone into my mind and relinquishing control to him. The better I know myself doesn’t just help me know what to look for in a prospective Dom, it helps me to identify my strengths, weaknesses, and needs. My personal growth makes me better equipped to take care of myself. I don’t want my submission to be because I cannot do for myself; I want it to be because I choose to defer my power to another - I take my submission seriously – it is meaningful and mindful. This is my truth, my choice, my quest for growth. My future Dominant will cherish this part of who I am and will engage in his own introspective journey. ~empoweredsubmissive *Archive  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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2/25/2021 11:08 am |
wow pretty impressive and extensive blog you have Miss
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ali This is a WONDERFUL piece and everyone could learn from it!! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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With each passing year I grow even stronger and more committed to this submissive passion.
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I am in awe of anyone who submits. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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seems to me you know what you very well. just waiting for that one you can share with. no time wasters. your a very strong women who knows what she wants and will not settle for less. that's a great way to be. he or she will come at some point for you Miss
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2/18/2021 5:22 am |
Great post, I've recently separated from my wife/sub of 12 years and this really helped so thank you x
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G G G G G Good morning! Well said. As a male DOM, I am seeking my female submissive. I need her and she needs me. I crave her and she craves me. I cannot and will not return to the Vanilla world. I hope I find her soon.
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This is a fantastic piece. I wish everyone a Safe and Warm day wherever you may roam. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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