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What I’ve Learned As A Plus Size Girl That’s Into D/s 1. I am not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay. Okay, ladies honesty time. I’m a bigger girl. I have thighs, hips, and a belly. Not everyone is going to be down with that. Those who do stick around are those who matter though. So what if you have a tummy and like to be tied up? I promise some guy somewhere will love every inch of you. 2. I don’t look like most porn photos. You know exactly what I am talking about. The photos that flood your feed, my feed, and even pictures you may have on your blog. Scantily clad women with svelte, slim bodies, flat tummy’s, skinny thighs, a tight butt, and not even a hint of cellulite. Let me tell you a little tip though…NO ONE looks like that. Even the models don’t look like that. Photoshop is magic. P.S. This applies to men too. Not all of you have a six-pack, chiseled jawlines, and perpetually wear a suit…but guess what? You’re still hot! 3. I will get criticized for my size. This is no secret. I can’t tell you how many times I have been told I need to lose weight or “sorry but I’m not into fat girls”. Oh well, your loss. Trust me it sucks but as I said before someone will love your tummy, big butt, thick thighs, cellulite, and rolls. Someone out there thinks you are the sexiest thing to walk this earth. 4. I am just as sexy as anyone else. Plus size is beautiful. So what if you have a few extra pounds? ROCK THAT SHIT! Rock it so fucking hard! 5. D/s is for everyone! I’ve been told several times that due to being fat that I will never find a Sir/Daddy/Master. This is simply not true. I have found a few. I’ve been into D/s for about 4-5 years now and men find no problems with me being plus-sized. Well, some have but they don’t matter. Whether you are a size 2 or 22 D/s is for you. 6. Not all littles are “little”. I myself am not a little, I have little tendencies but I have seen so many pics on DD/lg blogs where again all the girls are tiny and cute. Well, guess what you can be cute and little and still have a tummy. Daddy will love you just the same. 7. Porn is unrealistic so stop stressing. Porn is pretty to look at and fun to watch but we all know that it isn’t real. It’s a fantasy. It’s a perfect dream scenario. It can be a guideline and a fun way to get ideas but it will never be 100% accurate. Laugh at your mistakes and imperfections. Sex is supposed to be fun. If you have never laughed during sex you are having bad sex. So what if you can’t twist your body like that? You are a person, not a pretzel. 8. Beauty is only skin deep. Cliché but true. There is so much more to beauty, love, and D/s than what your body looks like. Men want real. Honest, smart, funny, loyal, etc. Yeah, a hot body catches the eye but a charming personality ignites the soul. 9. Love yourself. Another cliché but an important one. Take it from someone who has been there. Dom’s HATE when their sub talks down about themselves. It hurts them in more ways than you know. 1. It hurts because they love you and you can’t see that you are gorgeous to them. 2. They feel like a failure. When a sub is down on herself a Dom feels like he has failed her. A Dom wants his sub to feel loved, cherished, important. If she is upset about how she looks he feels like he has let her down. Also, self-love is important because you know the saying “you must love yourself before you love anyone else”. 10. I’m a confident, sexy, beautiful, plus-sized submissive, and I KICK-ASS!!! Hell yes. I am plus-sized but so the fuck what? I’m hot as hell. I am smart, funny, sarcastic, strong, and one hell of a conversationalist. I am not what the porn industry would make you believe submissive looks like but I still kick just as much ass as those women do. No matter your size BDSM is for all. Be confident. Be sexy. Be beautiful. Stay Kinky. asublissivelife1993~  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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S'Ok jaded, just pushed some buttons is all.
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I have said many times, Lose a pound fine, gain a pound fine. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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A lil Jaded, I absolutely loved what you have written here. I am a bigger guy, and I know I am Special, just as everyone else is SPECIAL, in our own way, irrespective of size, looks, intelligence or whatever. It is what is on the inside of the skin that matters. Yeah a lithe body is nice and draws interest, but it's the eyes, the personality, the intelligence that draw me in to wanting to find out more about that person. I want to be able to converse with a submissive, I want to be able to laugh with her, I want to enjoy this life, a life that is suppose to be fun, exciting and fulfilling, not boring and mundane, so she has to have an open mind and a willingness to explore and experiment. Jaded you are also right with what a dominant wants and feels from his submissive. I want mine to feel safe, secure, trusted and loved, and I will do whatever I can to build their self confidence and self esteem, because I want them to realise that they are a very valuable and desirable person. If they are down on these things then usually all their other traits suffer, which in turn, prevents the having of fun and being content and fulfilled. I definitely DON'T want a doormat because to me, that is just another way of having the submissive's self esteem dragged down. I should add dear Jaded, true to form, YOU write so many very good posts that have relevancy to this kinky life, and life in general. I do so enjoy reading your posts. Thank you!  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I also am attracted to tall men who can handle me. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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That made me cry. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I could care less about some ones size I am much more interested in what goes inside their head. With that said everyone has the preferences many men I know including myself like plus-size "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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You are hot, ice cubes melt in your vicinity. So I have a song for those that think like you: By Buster Poindexter - Hot Hot Hot "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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You’re beautiful just the way you are. Personally I’m more into a nice smile and personality more than the looks anyway. I have my own struggles with my looks. You worded your blog eloquently and hopefully it will help out more people on here than you will ever know. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Many years ago I saw a blind man in the store with his wife and kids. I thought what an incredible advantage he has. He was able to find love by seeing her heart and who she was inside, and not be influenced by her looks. That's the kind of love that pure. I always think about that when I'm interested in a woman. I try to see her the same way that blind man saw his wife. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Fantastic...thanks for sharing!!! "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Big women rock ! "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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size is not always of great importance.. is it. it's what is inside a person more so than size???????? "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Your hot , so don't let the skin and bone lovers put you down "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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When you judge others you don't define them . . you define yourself. A persons worth is not lessened by others inability to see it. Why is it always the people that know you the lest that judge you the most. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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couldn't agree more. Dom or sub it's the connection that matters! Don't think physical appearance should matter as much as we tend to make it . That's probably because most porn you watch in this lifestyle has beautiful women and "chiseled" men well endowed. That simply is not real life!
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A lil Jaded, I absolutely loved what you have written here. I am a bigger guy, and I know I am Special, just as everyone else is SPECIAL, in our own way, irrespective of size, looks, intelligence or whatever. It is what is on the inside of the skin that matters. Yeah a lithe body is nice and draws interest, but it's the eyes, the personality, the intelligence that draw me in to wanting to find out more about that person. I want to be able to converse with a submissive, I want to be able to laugh with her, I want to enjoy this life, a life that is suppose to be fun, exciting and fulfilling, not boring and mundane, so she has to have an open mind and a willingness to explore and experiment. Jaded you are also right with what a dominant wants and feels from his submissive. I want mine to feel safe, secure, trusted and loved, and I will do whatever I can to build their self confidence and self esteem, because I want them to realise that they are a very valuable and desirable person. If they are down on these things then usually all their other traits suffer, which in turn, prevents the having of fun and being content and fulfilled. I definitely DON'T want a doormat because to me, that is just another way of having the submissive's self esteem dragged down. I should add dear Jaded, true to form, YOU write so many very good posts that have relevancy to this kinky life, and life in general. I do so enjoy reading your posts. Thank you!
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That made me cry.
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If people don't find you attractive as all hell, they can go F(enter whatever F-word you want here. LOL ) themselves. I prefer someone real. Always have, always will!
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4/20/2021 7:06 am |
I could care less about some ones size I am much more interested in what goes inside their head. With that said everyone has the preferences many men I know including myself like plus-size
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You are hot, ice cubes melt in your vicinity. So I have a song for those that think like you: By Buster Poindexter - Hot Hot Hot "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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4/20/2021 6:49 am |
You’re beautiful just the way you are. Personally I’m more into a nice smile and personality more than the looks anyway. I have my own struggles with my looks. You worded your blog eloquently and hopefully it will help out more people on here than you will ever know.
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4/20/2021 6:35 am |
Many years ago I saw a blind man in the store with his wife and kids. I thought what an incredible advantage he has. He was able to find love by seeing her heart and who she was inside, and not be influenced by her looks. That's the kind of love that pure. I always think about that when I'm interested in a woman. I try to see her the same way that blind man saw his wife.
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Fantastic...thanks for sharing!!!
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I love it alil... I will never be a size 4 again either.. And I don't doubt you feel this way... Just would love to hear your own words sometimes ... "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I love it alil... I will never be a size 4 again either.. And I don't doubt you feel this way... Just would love to hear your own words sometimes ... ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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