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The Difference Between Falling In Love And Loving Someone We often loosely use the word “love” and we mix being in love with actually loving someone. Being in love with someone can stem from infatuation, possessiveness, and obsession. You both talk, hold hands, hug kisses and develop surface feelings. You feel alone when your partner is not around you. You crave and yearn for them to be with you all the time. Loving someone, on the other hand, goes beyond the physical presence. You desire to see them grow, you see past their flaws, you see opportunities of building into each other, and together; you motivate, encourage, and inspire one another. You do not have to second-guess or ask before you step in to do so. Loving someone requires 100 percent commitment on your part. The concept of true love is hard to comprehend by some. Hence, they get the wrong impression when dating someone who completely gets it. They cannot seem to understand why they deserve the love you are giving. This may make the relationship feel like it is one-sided. The truth is you cannot receive the love you do not have to give. Loving someone entails giving without condition, wanting the very best for them, making sacrifices, not keeping a record of wrongs, trusting each other completely but if you love someone who does not really know and understand what it is to love, they will never really appreciate all you do but see it as emotionally intense or desperation. It takes being with someone who knows what it is, to love to fully understand how you love. Falling in love may not necessarily last long since it is usually based on infatuation, lust or obsessing over the other party. If you have not experienced self-love, it will be a good time to take a step back and find yourself, love yourself and learn to be alone. Experiencing self-love also helps eliminate conflicts, creates room for seeing your partner for who he/she truly is without being judgmental or controlling but willing to sacrifice the time and effort required to help each other get on track. Love is beyond the outward and begins as an inside job. Love someone not because of what you can get but what you can give. You may fall in love due to selfish reasons and fall out of love when there are no personal gains. Do not just fall in love because you can easily fall out of love when the things you desire no longer exist in your relationship. Ensure you love someone completely – for who he/she is, embrace each other’s flaws, see and bring the best out of each other, during good and bad seasons of your journey and be patient with each other. Let your love for each other grow beyond measure. Kemi Sogunle~  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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ali I too find this very interesting...Love is a complex subject and I think there can only be guidelines! Not specific Rules! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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Sometimes loving someone takes 110% commitment or more. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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5/14/2021 4:17 pm |
Both can be good! And sometimes they merge in the same people.
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Very interesting perspective...
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5/14/2021 8:47 am |
And in the end love means holding their hand and looking into their eyes and telling them that it is ok to let go. Hold their hand and make sure the last words they hear are I LOVE YOU
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I agree alil... This piece hits home in many ways... Thanks for sharing it.  ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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Love is such a strange yet wonderful experience !
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5/14/2021 8:24 am |
If when you hold their hand you become giddy, an excited they aren't the one . . . If when you hold their hand you feel secure, stronger an safe . . Don't let go. There is a saying that you have to lose love to understand it . . To those of us that have lost the love of our life, we get it. You can't make a list of the things that will make the chemistry of love happen and don't try to look for love. True love never ends as long as the heart longs for it.
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It's good indeed.. thank you for sharing!
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This is such an interesting piece. I have to say it nails it for me. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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