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Patience I get it, it’s hard to be patient, it’s hard to deprive yourself of the relationship you’re either excited to try or you’ve been missing since your last. I understand it’s difficult to find someone that seems to be the puzzle piece that matches your kink and has to wait. But it is goddamn important. I see so very many problems from people that come down to them not wanting to wait to really get to know someone before the collar and the rules came out (that and poor communication, but that’s a future writing). Being patient, waiting, learning who they are, finding out if they really practice what they preach… are not optional steps. A dominant can’t possibly throw rules at a submissive if they don’t know what the submissive needs. A dominant can’t possibly know if they should accept a submissives submission if they don’t really know who the submissive is. A dominant can’t begin to take on the responsibility of accepting someone’s submission if the dominant does not know that they are the right person to lead that submissive. You cannot possibly know you’re dealing with a dominant and not a manipulative, abusive pseudo-dom until you’ve taken the time to find out just what makes that person tick. Don’t offer the gift of your submission to someone that manages to send the right texts for a couple of days, offers you some dick pics, and orders you to send back nudes of yourself. And that's about all he does. Whether it’s a dominant taking on a submissive or the submissive offering their submission to a dominant, both are accepting a grave responsibility. Don’t shortcut it, take your time, talk, spend time together, get to know that person. Do Your Due Diligence. Find out if they’re who they claim to be and find out if they’re really the person that’s going to provide what you need. Patience. ~adomsmind  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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Well said, I really like it!  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Excellent advice. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Thank you for posting this. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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ali This is yet another VERY important piece of advice! Thank you for sharing "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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In our instant society patience is in short supply. Those who have it tend to succeed because they don't play the "short game". The goal is not to achieve some intangible thing by Christmas or any other arbirtary date. The goal is to achieve, and improve, and adapt, and transform, and lead .. ad infinitum. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Tiempo y más tiempo y mucha comunicación Buen artículo "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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In our instant society patience is in short supply. Those who have it tend to succeed because they don't play the "short game". The goal is not to achieve some intangible thing by Christmas or any other arbirtary date. The goal is to achieve, and improve, and adapt, and transform, and lead .. ad infinitum.
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ali This is yet another VERY important piece of advice! Thank you for sharing A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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and of course Patience is a virtue
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9/7/2021 9:38 pm |
Well said, I really like it!
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Thank you for posting this.
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Thank you for this sound advice. I for one will continue to be patient and try to put this into practice.
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Excellent advice. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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i find its easier to sit down and talk about what each other wants! and then adjust down the road
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9/7/2021 5:51 pm |
Patience is a virtue, not the ability to wait . . but the ability of the soul to seek without wanting.
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Great writing !
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Tiempo y más tiempo y mucha comunicación Buen artículo Y quizás un instante sirva para trazar el camino que me guíe hacia tus ojos.
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Patience gets rewarded eventually.
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Very insightful post.
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I like this piece a lot. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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