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Determination Submission, and Dominance for that matter, while inbred, don’t come naturally. Now don’t mistake my meaning here, I believe submissives and Dominants are born this way, as much as people are born with blue eyes or brown. The innate desire to lead, or to follow, is not a choice, but the acts of submission and dominance are not innate, they are learned. Take sex, for example, you can know that you want it, that it is something you need in your life, but learning to have fulfilling sex is a journey, not a single act. And so, it is for D/s. You can take a submissive or a Dominant as your own, but that doesn’t complete your journey any more than losing your virginity makes you a master of sex. There is always more to learn. And you know what? It’s not fucking easy. You’re going to<b> screw </font></b>up. Probably a lot. You’ll hurt the person you love and it’s going to be soul-crushing. They’re going to hurt you too, and you’ll probably be blindsided. You’ll learn and grow, and if you’re anything like me, sometimes you’ll look at the trail of mistakes behind you and you’ll wonder if maybe you aren’t meant for this after all. Maybe you aren’t really submissive because you seem to fail a lot, or maybe you aren’t really a Dominant because you seem to hurt your sub even when it’s the last thing you want. But here’s the thing… Dominance and submission are innate desires, but learning to fulfill those desires takes work. Learning to serve your partner, fulfill their needs, and make sure that your own are met, requires determination and effort. Wanting something, truly deeply wanting it, even needing it, doesn’t mean you know how to get it. You have to be willing to pick yourself back up when you fall. It doesn’t mean you weren’t made for this. It doesn’t mean you aren’t a ‘true’ submissive or a Dominant. It means that if you want it badly enough, you’ll muster the strength to learn. @pleasurewhore  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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 Slave rick "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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What's coded in your DNA is not your destiny . . Your destiny is what makes your soul find that one person in 3 million who's DNA is coded to react to yours unlike anyone else's. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I read your words and they are quite important if you want a D/s relationship and you want it to work. Your photo really caught my eye first. It is a work of art. The composition is perfect and the rope work looks so precise. I cannot help but wonder how much time and effort went in to it. Just like relationships. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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As usual with what you post, excellently said. Even innate talent requires work, practice and perseverance to be the best you can be. Whether in sports, music or BDSM. Natural talent and desire are not enough.
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The relationship takes much work to flourish but if it ends life really does go on.
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Hola. Muchas razones hay en su post . Gracias por compartir anam
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Your comment, your thoughts, and experience that helped formulate those thoughts are 100% subscribed by me. And indeed is the keyword 'Determination' and also 'patience'....for both sides (D/s). But given the fact that women (be it D or s) have much more choices (1 woman for every 'dozen' of men) among the herd of men gives them psychological a bigger help and advantage: they can afford to put less effort...they can find another partner in a heartbeat, while for a man, it puts more pressure on him, because finding another female isn't easy at all when the number of sex members on either side is out of balance.....And as a result, it is normal to get out of shape, while looking as a man for a new female partner in the Bdsm community, when you lost the previous one. Thanks for your impressive (text + pictures alike) contribution, sub aliljaded. Greetz
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I agree with Rider. So much truth in your words and such a beautiful smile on her face... I believe one of contentment... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NfvqVxoJIaE
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Slave rick
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7/8/2022 4:03 am |
What's coded in your DNA is not your destiny . . Your destiny is what makes your soul find that one person in 3 million who's DNA is coded to react to yours unlike anyone else's.
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7/8/2022 2:09 am |
I'd Totally Submit, To Your, Every, Desire
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7/8/2022 12:21 am |
I read your words and they are quite important if you want a D/s relationship and you want it to work. Your photo really caught my eye first. It is a work of art. The composition is perfect and the rope work looks so precise. I cannot help but wonder how much time and effort went in to it. Just like relationships.
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So True. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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