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The Paradox of Dominance & Submission Simply being a partner in a D/s relationship confers no inherent advantage, no guarantee of happiness or fulfillment. Like any relationship, it thrives only when each partner accepts their responsibility as one half of an intricate dance, making a conscious daily effort to celebrate their partner. The paradox that every woman exploring submission must eventually learn to understand and accept is that in accepting his collar, and clicking her leash into place, she is not becoming a slave: she is being set free. It is not a man, but her freedom from inhibition, and the freedom to become who she has always wanted to be that she is giving herself to. The challenge that every man aspiring to dominance must accept is in understanding that her submission doesn’t make him a master, it makes him a servant. Great dominants accept with glee the challenge of taking a powerful being into their capable hands and, like grapes from the best vines, knowing how to squeeze her in all the ways that extract the very finest of her fruit. Then with patience and dedication, allow it to ferment into something seductive and beautiful. ~ArtofSubmission  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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It is very important to find and then accept who you really are at the very core of your own being. Submission has to come from the bottom of ones heart and on her own willingness to give in and relinquish. The same goes for the Dominance and control, it is not something that can be taken by force. It requires a great strength and will power mentally and psychologically to relinquish oneself to another and as such need to be respected, honored and cherished. it is never one sided and as such while the sub is giving herself to her Master, He on the other part has the responsibility to see and make sure that He is satisfying her needs and desires,and as such is working for the sub. The paradox is very interesting and need to be understood and taken seriously.
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symbiosis when done right
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A quote i stole from someone.. i dont know who... credits to this unknown person. If you want to claim authority and command respect, you are going to have to inspire that, with your words and actions. 
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"freedom from inhibition, and the freedom to become who she has always wanted to be" I have heard this lots of times before. It's like the old saying of what we do behind closed doors no one can see. The freedom from inhibition and to do what they want and how they want. Lots of these were not D/s relationships. Just couples finding their ways.
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That's very true, IMHO.
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It sure makes a lot of sense.....
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In that moment a Dominant will is not aware of taking and a submissive will is not aware of yielding. Their chemistry melds two souls, two hearts and two minds into one. Like two equal, but different halves of a circle make the circle whole. What we do to each other is not as important as the wholeness we share and become with each other.
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Two equals, mature, honest, and responsible, serving each other and their mutual goal.
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Wise words, and I think they may go deeper. At some point, every Dom and Sub has to ask "Is this who I am at my core?" and "What will I get from this relationship with this Dom or Sub that fulfills my need to Dominate or Submit? In any event, thanks for a good thought for the day.
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Interesting take. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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