Reset Password
Reset Link Sent
| Blogs > aliljaded > It's All Relevant |
|
Not All That Glitters Is Gold I’ve always been a submissive, and when I look back at my life I see signs for as far back as I can remember. It wasn’t until my late twenties that I started to label those feelings and desires. I had been living for years as a bottom, only in the bedroom, and realized what it was I had been missing for so long. I started searching for the missing piece, finally believing I wasn’t just broken. I started seeking dominance that existed past the bedroom’s threshold. I found that many men were eager to offer their assistance. I showed them the gap inside me, and they filled it with brashness and demands. They offered poor imitations of the real thing, and I was so desperate that I accepted and called it dominance. I knew even then that it wasn’t quite what I needed, but something is better than nothing, right? …Right? I felt like I couldn’t go without it anymore. Now that I knew there was something missing, I couldn’t leave this empty space inside myself… so I settled. Men used me, and I let them. I have to own my part in this journey because I allowed myself to accept less. We accept what we think we deserve, and I let myself believe that’s all there was, and it was all I was worth. I see quite often, on posts I write, and posts from others note that say ‘’does this even exist,” and to those asking themselves this very question… yes, it exists. Out there are real dominants. Ones who understand patience, and who know that what you need is more important than what they want. Don’t be like me, chasing the shiny things, and risk missing the real thing. pleasurewhore~  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
|||
|
Great writing! I recognise soo much, also, about my behaviour before.. in it. I did learn a thing or two, since that time. No setteling for less, is one lesson. It is soo emtpy, inside , when "you" do that... so cold.... Also, when the M type gives you, what you need, they get what they want, by doing so.... is what i have learned... Thank you, for this wonderful article.
| ||
|
Thank you... "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
| ||
|
I know I've been distracted by shiny things but I know I've learned how that shine can tarnish. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
| ||
|
I know I've been distracted by shiny things but I know I've learned how that shine can tarnish. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
| ||
|
Once the infatuation ends, the real work begins. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
| ||
|
I know I've been distracted by shiny things but I know I've learned how that shine can tarnish.  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
| ||
|
I believe that it is very valuable to take responsibility in how your life went. If we can see ourself as part of what we experience in our life, rather than as victim of something outside of our own power, we have a much better chance to choose to change things. Still not easy at all, but at least possible. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
| ||
|
All to often we think if I am Dominant and you are submissive we must be a match. Every soul has a mirror and you will only be satisfied with a soul that is a reflection your own image of yourself. Even in submission your partner must be the confidant of your darkest cravings and your most ardent dreams. Not all that is gold glitters. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
| ||
|
Your text really touched me and resonated. "We accept what we think we deserve, and I let myself believe that’s all there was, and it was all I was worth." - that's just brilliant and to the point. In my personal limited experience, knowing oneself and understanding what one REALLY wants and seeks and desires is such a vital part of this "game". I consider myself at the beginning of this journey but since I've started, I've learned so much about me, sometimes from failure, sometimes with the help of others, sometimes just by retrospective. Thank you for your inspiration. And you're very welcome. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
| ||
|
quality over quantity...the search for the perfect fit is a long journey thru many fitting rooms! "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
| ||
|
I have chased the golden ring once or twice and even tried settling for an empty feeling... be true to, and know, thyself "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
| ||
5/15/2023 6:10 pm |
cutie
| ||
|
this is the key line for me: "who know that what you need is more important than what they want." so true and when that happens the experience is wonderful for both. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
| ||
|
Thank you, very well said! It does exist and anything worth having is worth waiting for.
| ||
|
Once the infatuation ends, the real work begins.
| ||
|
I know I've been distracted by shiny things but I know I've learned how that shine can tarnish.
| ||
|
I believe that it is very valuable to take responsibility in how your life went. If we can see ourself as part of what we experience in our life, rather than as victim of something outside of our own power, we have a much better chance to choose to change things. Still not easy at all, but at least possible.
| ||
|
All to often we think if I am Dominant and you are submissive we must be a match. Every soul has a mirror and you will only be satisfied with a soul that is a reflection your own image of yourself. Even in submission your partner must be the confidant of your darkest cravings and your most ardent dreams. Not all that is gold glitters.
| ||
|
Your text really touched me and resonated. "We accept what we think we deserve, and I let myself believe that’s all there was, and it was all I was worth." - that's just brilliant and to the point. In my personal limited experience, knowing oneself and understanding what one REALLY wants and seeks and desires is such a vital part of this "game". I consider myself at the beginning of this journey but since I've started, I've learned so much about me, sometimes from failure, sometimes with the help of others, sometimes just by retrospective. Thank you for your inspiration.
| ||
|
quality over quantity...the search for the perfect fit is a long journey thru many fitting rooms!
| ||
|
I have chased the golden ring once or twice and even tried settling for an empty feeling... be true to, and know, thyself
| ||
|
this is the key line for me: "who know that what you need is more important than what they want." so true and when that happens the experience is wonderful for both.
| ||
|
I think we all go through this at least once in our lives. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
|
 |
 |
 |
| Become a member to comment on this blog | ||
 |
×
×