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BDSM Vs Abuse ~    "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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Dear lady, like nearly every other post you make, you have published something of relevance and something that needs to be put out there for one and all to read, so that they can understand some of the dangers of this life. This life we find ourselves in is suppose to be fun, exciting and fulfilling, but at what cost? Newbies and some not so newbies, because of the spiels some so called dominants use, are at risk right from the beginning of a relationship because of not understanding what their limits mean, what consequences can be from various activities, and what dangers to look for, and in your posts, you give them that knowledge. The only thing is though, that you can't, unfortunately, make some of the readers understand that their safety and well-being are paramount and that if their needs are not being met, they really should re-evaluate the circumstances of their relationship. NO relationship is better than a relationship that encompasses abuse, self esteem destruction or health/safety and well-being aspects being put at risk.  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Dear lady, like nearly every other post you make, you have published something of relevance and something that needs to be put out there for one and all to read, so that they can understand some of the dangers of this life. This life we find ourselves in is suppose to be fun, exciting and fulfilling, but at what cost? Newbies and some not so newbies, because of the spiels some so called dominants use, are at risk right from the beginning of a relationship because of not understanding what their limits mean, what consequences can be from various activities, and what dangers to look for, and in your posts, you give them that knowledge. The only thing is though, that you can't, unfortunately, make some of the readers understand that their safety and well-being are paramount and that if their needs are not being met, they really should re-evaluate the circumstances of their relationship. NO relationship is better than a relationship that encompasses abuse, self esteem destruction or health/safety and well-being aspects being put at risk.
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i need a loyal sub "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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i need a loyal sub
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I always enjoy seeing these. Those visual posters are excellent. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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So neatly sums things up - needs to be passed around all the newcomers - if it's not on the lefthand side the behaviour is abuse "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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And the abusers always apologize....... "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Excellent- that’s enough material to generate topics for at least a half-dozen solid SRT discussions (and very likely twice that) that I’d see as essential. Now if only more SRT’s were happening more places. Beyond allyship I’m on the wrong side of the slash to make a meaningful contribution, but I really think it’s time for something more structured and organized to happen on a national or worldwide scale by way of raising awareness and providing a forum for discussion. Thanks, as always, for sharing. I hope you’ve been well. I hope you've been well too. Warm Regards, M "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Is “abuse” a parallel fetish of the bdsm genre, In many people’s minds, kink is a very specific sexual practice — one that involves handcuffs, whips, and one person ordering their partner around. But even though consensual power exchange and rough sex are part of many people’s kink experiences, they’re not the sum total of kink. You can be super kinky and never go anywhere near a flogger or call someone Master — and kinky people aren’t required to wear leather or dress in all black. But there’s a very big difference between kink and abuse, and being kinky doesn’t obligate you to do anything you don’t want to do. Exploring kink and BDSM doesn’t mean foregoing consent entirely — consent is crucial in any and all sexual activity. At its most basic level, “consensual kink” is just like any other kind of consensual sex: It’s an experience that everyone is on board with, happy about, and enjoying the entire time. But because kink can involve power exchange, role-play, and even exploring painful, difficult sensations, a consensual kink experience can look very different from how we envision consensual vanilla sex. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Psychopaths can behave illogically too, pretending to be one thing but doing another. Telling you that a safe word is mandatory then taping your mouth up so nothing you say can be heard. I didn't make that up , it's real. Many seem to have schizophrenia, a two faced Mistress is comical/scary and everything in between. Dangers galore and maybe some get what they want. BDSM is just an idea that not all are interested in. But saying that's what you want would open the rule book if there is one or simply melding ideas together would achieve some fine tuning. If it works out well then something unexpected , unwanted may crop up. Another danger that doesn't involve any violence. And what does the law say? What does the law say about long term relationships out of marriage? Too scary for many. May set you back a dime or two. I know covid saw many parlors of the kind to give a quick fix go quiet giving some sort of idea as to how popular they are. I like that, that its popularity grows and gives real enjoyment. And a safe and private way to enjoy yourself. In its simplest Hollywood form abusers only exist so revenge can be sweetened.  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Such gifts might be rare. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Hello, my dear friend, this is so accurate. BDSM is not Abuse. We all need to stay away from the abusers. The ones that come with flowery words. Those words become arsenic in the end. xoxoxo L "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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good post knowing is understanding or vice versa! "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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THANK YOU for posting this, 'aliljaded', not enough is spoken about it and the BIGGEST thing this site allows is abuse by those that are here to scam others under th guise of being a DOMINANT and utilizing powers, such as OBEDIENCE to further their abilities to abuse members BRAND NEW to this lifestyle, or with little or NO knowledge of what to expect, and it SHOULD NOT be left to TRIAL and ERROR... "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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ali Yes! These distinctions are so IMPORTANT! Thank you for posting "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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To actually find the one who both appreciate each others qualities Is a gift "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I always enjoy seeing these. Those visual posters are excellent. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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So neatly sums things up - needs to be passed around all the newcomers - if it's not on the lefthand side the behaviour is abuse
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And the abusers always apologize.......
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Excellent- that’s enough material to generate topics for at least a half-dozen solid SRT discussions (and very likely twice that) that I’d see as essential. Now if only more SRT’s were happening more places. Beyond allyship I’m on the wrong side of the slash to make a meaningful contribution, but I really think it’s time for something more structured and organized to happen on a national or worldwide scale by way of raising awareness and providing a forum for discussion. Thanks, as always, for sharing. I hope you’ve been well.
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Is “abuse” a parallel fetish of the bdsm genre, In many people’s minds, kink is a very specific sexual practice — one that involves handcuffs, whips, and one person ordering their partner around. But even though consensual power exchange and rough sex are part of many people’s kink experiences, they’re not the sum total of kink. You can be super kinky and never go anywhere near a flogger or call someone Master — and kinky people aren’t required to wear leather or dress in all black. But there’s a very big difference between kink and abuse, and being kinky doesn’t obligate you to do anything you don’t want to do. Exploring kink and BDSM doesn’t mean foregoing consent entirely — consent is crucial in any and all sexual activity. At its most basic level, “consensual kink” is just like any other kind of consensual sex: It’s an experience that everyone is on board with, happy about, and enjoying the entire time. But because kink can involve power exchange, role-play, and even exploring painful, difficult sensations, a consensual kink experience can look very different from how we envision consensual vanilla sex.
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Have never seen this before. But it is a wonderful expansion. Hopefully it will keep some submissive from being abused. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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Is “abuse” a parallel fetish of the bdsm genre, especially a newer, recently evolving one? I ask because it seems to me that I see more and more ads from women, especially the younger set, across multiple platforms…that say something to the effect of “come abuse me” or “looking to be abused”. Being older, I find the younger vocabulary increasingly hard to stay on top of, so this could all simply be slang for rough sex or even more standard bdsm activity. So abuse may have found its way into the newer lexicon, or it’s evolving into its own sub fetish under a more traditional bdsm umbrella? People love to play with words. Stay safe, respect your partner, communicate and have fun!
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To actually find the one who both appreciate each others qualities Is a gift
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Hello, my dear friend, this is so accurate. BDSM is not Abuse. We all need to stay away from the abusers. The ones that come with flowery words. Those words become arsenic in the end. xoxoxo L
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