Blog : Miss Manners (yeah, you can read that two ways) Rudeness online in the kink community.

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4/12/2020 8:34 am

Miss Manners (yeah, you can read that two ways) Rudeness online in the kink community.

I find myself shaking my head these days. A lot and often. Maybe I'm more exposed people online because I'm alone at home these days, and see the things I've missed as a slammed--the-wall busy person. Additionally, I'm raw, and I'm salty, and so with that in mind, please either change the page, or tread lightly through these words. Please.

I was raised be cordial people. respect their feelings, (almost) above all. Some call it Southern gentility. My parents called it having good manners.
In one case, in a chatroom that I enjoy visiting, a "Dom" showed total disregard for another's interest or fetish. Mr know it all was quick to put it down, to interject his "superior" thoughts, and to make an effort to make the other person feel "small." Fortunately, there were other people in the room who showed interest in the kink, and seeing that person equally. We are all here because we have "something." As was said in a posting I will always cherish, "One sky covers us all equally."

In another moment, one who has had (admittedly) personal issues, uses those as excuses to be rude. And hurtful. Excuses upon excuses. In the next breath, expects "please forgive my mistake" to exonerate, and "move on." So wrapped up in one's self, that common courtesies are tossed out the window, because "one is a special case." Says things and backtracks. Hurtful.

in a society in which we all have interests, likes, kinks, flaws, and misgivings about ourselves, wouldn't it be best to...especially in these times...be more considerate of others? If not considerate, maybe just mannerly?
"Please, thank you, be right back, I'll see you later" are all expressions of..."you're important to me." I work with people who do that in a more formal way in the work environment, but they as leaders, recognize the importance of "smoothing the way" for others.

One of my bids online told me this once. "Being heroic, by definition, is helping others." The others in the chat room that evening were heroic.
Be mannerly, please.
Be someone's hero.


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