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Please check all luggage at the door Welcome Happy Readers, I don't know how many times I've seen personal ads or heard someone comment that they were looking for someone without baggage or didn't have drama - I've lost count. I always get a chuckle from that sort of comment. If you think about it the only ones without baggage or drama are and the dead - and if you believe in ghosts or some other afterlife then even some of the dead seem to still have them. Seriously think about it, the reason we have them is because we've lived life. (and some of them are sadly born with their own baggage or drama) usually haven't lived enough of life to be hurt enough to have any baggage yet. The dead, well who knows what they actually experience, if anything, and I'm not inclined to die just to find out. As for having drama, I think it was the cable network TNT that use to say "Life is drama." There is no escaping it. So, dear readers, if you are one of those who is looking for a lack of either or both, well you are either going to do without a life partner or... Eeewww! My advice if you don't want baggage or drama, do without. Oh, and as a clue, most who are seeking the lack do so because of their own baggage or drama. None of us who reach adulthood (chronologically at least) does so without picking up a bag or two, and you don't live without some drama. Put that in your pipe and smoke it.  So what is there to do? Well, the trick is to learn what is excessive baggage or drama and to avoid those with it, but to use the usual daily life drama and baggage to get closer to your partner. You'll have to decide just what constitutes an excessive amount (though no matter what you decide, I probably fit in the excessive category). How much you care about the other person is going to go a long way to helping you decide just what is excessive. The more we care the more we are willing to put up with, but there are limits. You have to decide where yours are. For those of us who are the drama/baggage carriers, we have to learn just how much to share, and more importantly HOW to share it. If you have a little problem with jealousy, going into a screaming fit every time your mate glances at someone else probably isn't the best way to express it. Ok, that may be an extreme example, but I have known more than one person who would react that way. By the same token, I've also met one or two who were insecure enough in their relationship, would do the looking just to elicit such a response just to confirm the other person is still interested. There are a lot of other examples of ways someone can improperly communicate fears or concerns that stem from our baggage and therefor results in excessive drama. I can't tell you the best way to find the right medium, but I would suggest talking with your partner in a rational manner. If you need to find an IMPARTIAL mediator to help keep things from getting out of control. It doesn't have to be a professional, a mutual friend will often suffice, just someone to keep things from going crazy. Communication is the key. So, accept that as adults we all have baggage and experience drama, but rather than try to avoid it, try to understand it, and use it as a way to grow closer. Take care and happy hunting Bri P.S. Ok, so maybe I'm full of shit, then again who knows. |
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Bri I don't know what to say but, WOW that was DEEP!!! You are a very good thinker and writer. Glad I got back on my laptop so I can read and comment on stuff.
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I can't take all the credit for this one. I got the idea from a commercial for the TNT channel. The commercial had a tagline something like, "We know drama," or some such and that got me thinking. From there I decided that Life is drama. And, if life is drama, then anyone who lives will end up with a spot of baggage just by dint of living. So, we all have baggage. With those postulates in place, this piece was easy to write. Pretty simple stuff really.
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