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When is a switch not a switch? I have learned that the best way stop the ALT editor from screwing up these posts, is to post the blog in an initial comment... |
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Within the BDSM terms sub, dom or switch, I have to most closely identify with being a switch, but I wish there was a fourth term to describe my personality. To me, the term switch suggests someone who wants to reverse the roles with a partner, either mid play, or at least from session to session, and that's just not me. I certainly do enjoy both sub and dom roles, I would say probably in equal proportion, but for very different reasons. As a sub, I love the sensation of a very sharp sting to my buttocks, especially when delivered by a woman who is enjoying the process and has complete control over how much it will hurt. However, I love the feeling so much that I will even do it to myself, as hard as I can, when there is no other opportunity to receive appropriate punishment. Indeed, I am even working on building my own whipping machine, that, when strapped down, will lock me in position for a preset period of time, and deliver repeated lashes with an elastic cord, that springs back across my bum to deliver the most perfect stripes possible. (More on this to follow when it is finished, but there is a picture on my profile of the effect from a prototype.) So for me as a sub, the main pleasure is a purely physical one, that gives in return an erotic satisfaction. However, as a dom, the enjoyment is a much more psychological one. I relish the power that comes from being allowed to control a sub, who has given me her complete trust, and who I know will allow me to take her to her limits, but not beyond. The knowledge that she is relying on my compassion, and will please me any way she can to earn this, is an aphrodisiac to beat them all. Being able to give intense pleasure as well as pain, but as I choose to give it, is the greatest thrill of all. So although I enjoy both sides of this scene, they are for me two very different things, and as much as any sub or dom enjoys their role, I also enjoy either of these roles for the same reasons. I am not someone who wants to regularly switch between them with a partner, according to how our moods dictate. So when you think of the term switch, do you imagine someone who likes to swap things around often, or someone like me? I would be interested in your thoughts... Alan.
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