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My thoughts on the hubbysubby/ boyfriend slave combo See below |
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This actually is a hard one for me to really blog about. Whereas i dont have a problem with lifestyle relationships.. Personally i feel the role of husband,lover,boyfriend... Needs to be separated from the role of being your slave.. And i get you may be married dating or in a FLR with this male. But i really think they are two different roles/ statuses. For example..say the Domme takes clothed boyfriend to a playparty. Friends,other Dominant may approach,sit down,talk... But most likely he is seen as the boyfriend..he is treated almost like her equal/ everyone's equal.. Now let's say she walks in with a naked slave on a leash. People in the group automatically will react to/ treat the male differently. If they sit down/ talk the people will be addressing the Dominant. Most likely they won't talk to the slave. He is just viewed differently. He is viewed as her property. I'm not saying you can't date,marry,love a slave...but just remember he is a slave and needs to be kept as such. Why do I feel this way? I'm a natural submissive. I'm sub at work,at a football game,at a bar, I'm sub even when im without a Dominant. I'm not an sob ceo that fucks over employees to save the company 10 cents per widget.. And then runs to a pro Domme to put him in his place. I feel there is a ying and yang between Dominants and slaves.. I naturally feel ( amongst men atleast)...There are males that are naturally superior and one's that are inferior. And I'm cool with it So i feel the role of " boyfriend" is up to the Dominant to decide...they actually may desire someone more alpha. She may wish to get herself a male for this role or many men for this role. And honestly I'd be cool with it So i feel that isnt a role that I should just assume. Plus i feel the term boyfriend/ husband/ lover is on a higher status than slave. Introduce someone as your husband slave versus introducing someone as your slave.. And i think your gonna get different reactions. Now I get that you perhaps dont get this..perhaps your a female slave and dont see things the way I do. I just think there are many degrees of status between a Dominant and a male slave.. With Dominants on top..vanilla people like boyfriends..then female slaves.. And male slaves on the bottom rung.. I'm just not a fan of the sub hub because it allows him to submit when It's convient...and then It's not natural..It's geeked the fuck out to the point where it looks like codsplay at a screening for star wars..
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you make some good points asa i am a natural sub as well. it would take a special relationship to have a sub/hub/slave/boyfriend work
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My Dominant and I have a different kind of D/s relationship. We are not lovers or boyfriend girlfriend. She made it clear from the start that she does not have sex with submissive guys. Which i am fine with. in fact, it was a relief. I have been cursed with ED for 16 years caused by a medication I must take so the thought of disappointing her was terrible. She took away that fear and i can focus on making her happy. We are play partners only and that is all i wanted. She and her daughter now live with me, and we are happy. Her boyfried keeps her sexually fullfilled and as long as he keeps her happy, she keeps me happy with wonderful play sessions. I love her so much. She brought happiness back into my life after the death of my Mistress/Wife of 27 years from cancer.
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