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Adult conversations: today's topic...control See below |
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I decided to write about control today for 2 reasons. I thought it was more universal topic and I sent an email to a spanker I asked if there were times where he wanted more.. I'm mean the spanker is gay..the spankee is a dude.. Seems like an obvious question.. Would he desire more control over the other male.. Let's be honest..those on a spanking site tend to be gay,tend to be male and sorta kinda act like the domestic discipline crowd.. This is what they are into..pretty much..for them this is the lifestyle. So there isn't a Dom..just a "Dad"..figure. And most likely the men he spanks are living vicariously,probably married, jerk off to fantasies and go back to work the next day. So I wondered about control...and is this really Dominating someone.. Especially when we compare and contrast it to a slave like myself.. Spankee..let's call him Tom comes over,there is ackward small talk on the couch,both guys sorta afraid to broach the topic of spankings.. Yet both really want to be downstairs in the playroom. With a guy like Tom the spanker won't even really touch him aside from the spanking. Tom most likely won't even get naked and will just drop his pants for the spanking.. Vs someone like myself that enjoys being controlled. I feel like there doesn't have to be the odd silence,the sports talk , sitting across from one another. We're both men,both like guys...and know why I'm over his house. He knows his role and I know/ enjoy mine. So it's easy for me to just strip..be touched,played with and have no hestitation of moving this into the dungeon basement.. So I wonder why anyone would want tom.. Sure I get ..shockingly😲.. guys are also hard to find...esp for older guys.. I get playing with guys that are available.. But you also know Tom most likely isn't coming back for another session.. He lives out of town or married..or is vanilla and just living out a fantasy.. What good is a discipline session if you know there isn't gonna be a round 2. I mean you can't get into a good rhythm..you really don't know the bottoms limits, your flying blind and have nothing to build a foundation on. Your never gonna have the fun of training that ass to take more,bust through those plateaus and most likely get him aroused by pain. And even if your enjoying yourself as you paddle that bottom.. It must be odd to not be able to even " touch" the spankee. Somethings guys won't do,..women are more comfortable. And I'm not saying a spanker has to be Billy bad ass and carry a whip. But I don't get playing with someone and having no control over them.. Esp in contrast to a slave like myself which is easy to command,position,control.. And where others may need every act noted and given consent.. I'm more of an implied consent slave.. Like if you have you dick out.. Just being honest.. Yeah We both want it.. Unlike tom.. Your thoughts
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I'd have to concur with just about everything you said.
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very scary to cede control in that manner... must be exciting too
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