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infinitepoetess 54F
6332 posts
5/7/2022 11:58 pm
Being The Tortoise In The Race


If you're like me, you entered the lifestyle with eagerness and excitement. I'm sure from the outside looking in, I was too eager. This would probably explain why It took a few years before I found my first. As we all know,, you never find it when you're looking for it. Relationships happen when you least expect it. Be that as it may, a fresh new slew of people enter the lifestyle daily. I try not to judge, and remember that I was once there too.

Just as there are people that are eager to push limits, the eager ones looking for their mate, are in some imaginary race. Let me clarify, this is no race. If it were a race, you would want to be the tortoise. Discovering who you are, and what you want takes time. You will get there eventually. Rushing to get there means you won't fully enjoy the journey. You also risk possibly finding someone for the wrong reasons

Slow down and smell the roses along the way. What do you think you're going to miss?
Do you think you have a time limit and finding a soulmate?
Are you pushing so hard to have it, that you don't pay attention to who they really are?
Are you so eager to get it that you ignore the red flags?

In the beginning, I had a slave who once visited me on the way to meet her master in England. They had been carrying on a relationship online for a few years I remember thinking if I had to wait that long that I would surely give up. She said to me, upon recognizing my eagerness, that I must feel like I'm special. It had taken her years to find the one that she wanted to be with. She also asked me Why I thought I could enter the lifestyle and find someone immediately? And how counter productive is that for a submissive?
I gave it much thought, and came to the conclusion that she made a good point.
I would and have found the right fit with the Doms I have been involved with.

Food for thought...

Song for this post
The Waiting-- Tom Petty & The Heartbreakers


rondiri 65M
11158 posts
5/8/2022 12:19 am

Very good thought, Patience is a must. Grabbing the first Dom or sub you latch onto might make you happy short term, but unless it's the right choice, there is no long term.


Mrpaulux1 55M
227 posts
5/8/2022 3:48 am

beautiful post how are you my friend .?


drmgirl622 68F  
26062 posts
5/8/2022 8:11 am

Lord knows, I've had my share of this. Now I've settled down and the right one has come to me.


rosaenaluin 65F
11002 posts
5/8/2022 10:11 am

Yeah, been there, done that.... Dont want the T-shirt....

I like the self development, growth...
That makes me happy & thankful.

Also, totally not interested in "the game playing kind"


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
8/12/2022 8:32 pm

    Quoting rondiri:
    Very good thought, Patience is a must. Grabbing the first Dom or sub you latch onto might make you happy short term, but unless it's the right choice, there is no long term.
Double jeopardy for the one who is vulnerable


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
8/12/2022 8:34 pm

    Quoting Mrpaulux1:
    beautiful post how are you my friend .?
Merci mon ami.
I missed this post being busy as hell. I am living and doing well as I can. How about you?


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
8/12/2022 8:34 pm

    Quoting drmgirl622:
    Lord knows, I've had my share of this. Now I've settled down and the right one has come to me.
I love this and no one deserves it more


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
8/12/2022 8:35 pm

    Quoting rosaenaluin:
    Yeah, been there, done that.... Dont want the T-shirt....

    I like the self development, growth...
    That makes me happy & thankful.

    Also, totally not interested in "the game playing kind"
Yaaas!
Totally agree ..preach it girl!


JohnnyLightning 65M  
9648 posts
8/12/2022 9:01 pm

It sounds like you are close to that slave.

Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.


Mrpaulux1 55M
227 posts
8/18/2022 6:10 am

    Quoting infinitepoetess:
    Merci mon ami.
    I missed this post being busy as hell. I am living and doing well as I can. How about you?
hello I'm fine like many people at work pay attention to health
why do you say as you can ?
hugs n mon ami



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