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It's what I worry about when I talk to a younger sub. So many lose their anchor, sometimes abruptly, and there are no preparations for what the sub does after the Dom has passed away. Some have no job skills and are faced with having to find another Dominant quickly. I also wonder if they will be capable of caring for me as I age, will they WANT to stay. From your point of view, you have to do what is best for your future, not just the present when it comes to an older partner.
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I fully understand your concern and thoughts that Old age really needs to be thought about and planned for. . . . . .BUT. . . .life can be cruel to say the least. . . .even a Dominant 30 or 40 years old, in the peak of condition . . . .can leave this world in an instant. Think about life with an Older . . . .but then get on with life . . . and enjoy !
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Im thinking....damn i don't want to let you down
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it's more about energy and attitude. i have met 40 year olds that carry themselves as if they were 70. and i have met 70 year olds that look and act like they were 40. the latter is much more fun than the former. to say it's about the chronological "age" is, well ageist. every person is an individual with different health issues (or none), different life experiences, different perspectives and varying degrees of energy and interest in the world at large. find someone who melts your butter and don't worry about how old their driver's license says they are.
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7/12/2022 4:48 pm |
This is not just a concern for younger subs with older Doms/Dommes. This is also a concern for older subs involved with younger Doms/Dommes. What happens to me when I get too old or have a catastrophic health issue? Do I just get dumped and left to fend for myself?
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Hmm... well age is only a number but health is important as we age ones mortality is ever present as we age nobody knows when their time is up thou I’d say at your age somebody 50-60 yo who’s active healthy & viral should fit your needs nicely but lF you find somebody older you click well w then see it thru or have an open agreement between you all?! What do you think? my song...Bob Seger, come to Poppa
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I've always been attracted to older women. Now that I'm that older woman I still crave someone older. The age thing does have its downside but quite frankly I dealt with some life-threatening issues when I was in my early 50's. Either way you look at it there is always going to be risks and I look at it as it's never too late and you only live once.
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Is this a current problem?
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The scenario you are visualizing may be flipped upside down. Life is unpredictable and sometimes cruel. What if you're the one who dies first? Or you're involved in an accident and he becomes YOUR nurse? How would you feel if he then dumped you? These are hard choices that only you can make. Some of these choices define the word "love" and others lead to a lifetime of regret for what might have been. Honey - Bobby Goldsboro
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7/12/2022 6:22 pm |
It is a two way street.
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Age is but a number..I'm 53....and honest to God never had any ED issues..hard as an 18 yr old And if I was straight...well. But I'm not.. Yet to be honest I think men tend to fizzle out at 70.. You might just shoot for a guy you age or barely 60.. And yes..I also enjoy older people
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I believe it's mind over matter. They also have implantable inflatables that give granite a run for its money  Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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Dear Infinite Poetess, you have raised some very good questions, and I have been thinking ever so much about these exact points for a year or two now. After a lot of years in the military, the body feels every single day of it's age (and then some), but the mind is still that of a 40 year old. In my younger days I was not one to want to share a lot, but in latter years I have changed that opinion. I want my sub (don't have one at the moment) to be able to gain pleasure, whether that be with me performing or her performing with someone else in my presence so that I am part of her pleasure experience. I may not be able to fuck like a 30 year old now, but I can still wield the crop or flogger, I can still spank, and I have not forgotten how to tie knots, or how to choke/degrade or humiliate. I still enjoy feasting on cunt and forcing orgasms and edging, and I still enjoy taking my sub for a walk and a dogging session. So for me, if I was to drop off the perch, my sub would know within herself what she needed and how to go looking for it in order to continue her interest in this kinky lifestyle, because she would have been trained in what to look for and select someone to continue her kinky life. Sure they mightn't be me, but as my time drew towards the end, she would have been encouraged to look for someone to replace me. I don't want my partner to become my nurse, so she should have no qualms about leaving me on the sidelines. Life is life and needs to be lived and celebrated. Today I find myself gravitating to younger women who want to explore and experience, and I want to give them the chance to learn in a safe and secure environment, and nurturing them, training them on how to select a dominant that is much closer to them in age and who they can gravitate to in order to continue their growth when they feel ready, attaining their satisfaction and fulfillment.
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7/12/2022 8:18 pm |
I have read this again several times and I guess I don't quite follow it. Who exactly are Daddy Doms? I have never quite understood the definition of a Daddy Dom. I am totally unfamiliar with Toby Keith. I guess I am getting him mixed up with Kenneth Tobey the actor.
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7/13/2022 12:48 am |
This goes both ways. I have had dominants not wanting me, because i am 60+. If they told the true, anyway... I am not overweight, i dont take any medeciation, still have my own teeths, ,dont use any protheses, have a rather healthy lifestyle, except for the choco.... But can drop dead, because of some unknown health issue.... When you both grow older, even when he is much older, you go through that proces together, i geuss... Sooner or later, someone has to take care of the other person... When you are in a commited relationship.
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7/13/2022 12:48 am |
I love those overknee socks! 
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Not easy being an older little
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7/16/2022 5:39 pm |
This is a very good debate
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I always loved older men. But, like you, I am in my early fifties. I would actually like to meet ANYONE, who is kind and considerate, and not totally full of shit. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I always loved older men. But, like you, I am in my early fifties. I would actually like to meet ANYONE, who is kind and considerate, and not totally full of shit.
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8/2/2022 2:47 pm |
At the end of the day, I suppose you have to decide for yourself what you are happy and comfortable with for the future. None of us are getting younger. For all of us our needs, wants and dynamics change over time.
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8/4/2022 4:15 pm |
You are too kind... I'm far more likable online than in person. Most of the time I'm just pouring out some nonsense that has been rolling around the empty spaces in my mind. But thank you and I hope the coming weekend brings you unexpected enjoyment.
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do you feel that the depth of a subs attachment exceeds that of the dom ?
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