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Slut Acceptance And Life Without Shame Slut. Doesn't that word just sound sexy and powerful? No? Well it does to me. It's a word that I find empowering which confuses people but indulge me here . When I hear someone say in passing something like " _insert name _ is such a slut" or other such 90s cliches here is what I see... I envision a person who is confident both in and out of the bedroom. Someone who knows what they want and arent ashamed to let the world know. They know that people Talk about them behind their backs daily but just says fuck you back at them with a smile. Their lifestyle is fearless and packed full of risk, danger and adventure. Does that sound like someone to ridicule or someone to admire? I know which side I am on and I love it. Now there was a time when I saw sluttiness as a terrible thing until the day I realised I was one and honestly I have never looked back. I used to be disgusted after masturbation and couldn't wait to turn off whatever porn film had aided me that night. I felt dirty and it made me feel cheap. I had no respect for the girls who had given their bodies up so easily on film. It got even worse when I cross dressed. It was something I used to do purely for sexual gratification. I had no intention of living as a woman as porn had programmed me into having little to no respect for women. This is now the total opposite of what I believe but at the time all I could think was why would I want to be one? It disgusted me and I suppressed that part of me for so many years until I met my partner. Ever lived a day in someone else's shoes? Well I lived for 32 years in them. A story for another day but she helped me become Kara and Kara is the kind of girl that fits my earlier description. She knows exactly what she wants. She oozes confidence in and out the bedroom. She loves to control an audience when she teases on webcam. She also loves wearing the sluttier outfits and loves the attention it gets her. She puts herself in potentially dangerous situations. She lives for the sexual thrill. Does she sound like someone you would be ashamed to know? She sounds like I would get along with her. She sounds like fun. So when did i accept that i was a slut? The day I lost my shame. Shame is something that weighed me down for years. Shame is that little voice in your head telling you you look stupid. I remember exactly when I started to change my life and I will forever be thankful for reading a particular article one day. Kay so it's getting very personal now but the singer from my fave band (who is an out cross dresser and bdsm enthusiast btw) had an interview with some web magazine and they got onto his sexuality. The interviewer asked why he was so open about it all and he said " because I no longer live with shame". There is a lot more to it but that one line resonated super hard with me. Here is a guy who is fairly famous in his 50s who walks down the street in a latex dress and openly talks to anyone about his sexuality and does what he likes because ... get this... he enjoys it. We spend too much of our lives holding back from living so from that day on I decided to start fucking living. So after going through the motions and talking it all through with my now fience I realised there was nothing to fear if my best friend was in my corner. She decided I was having a coming out party but she would be the only guest. She pulled out all the stops and started putting the wheels in motion for me to become Kara. On that amazing day I went out with my girlfriend fully dressed to the clubs. I was wearing a bodycon black maxi dress I picked up from river island and some cute ankle boots. I felt so scared in my wig and makeup but yet so liberated. This was my first night out cross dressing. She insisted on it. And it changed my life for the better. I would go as far to say it saved it. I am one of the lucky girls who gets to live as she wants to and no amount of smirks or ridicule matters to me. I no longer live with shame. Why should I be ashamed? I have come to find that I get way more interactions with people and have developed super confidence since I transitioned. Why? Because i have already experienced the scariest thing i ever have other than death. I have a ridiculously fun sex life and I get to wear cute outfits all the time. I am way more girly than my other half and she's a bio girl. She doesn't look down on me and neither do my friends so what exactly do i have to be ashamed about? Nothing. Life without shame is wonderful and although it took a lot of brain reprogramming to accept it I have found my own sense of nirvana. Being a slut in bed has also helped to bring out the best in me. I am very open and if allowed graphic about my sex life. When some of the girls at work asked me for sex tips when nobody was about that was another huge sign that I was doing something right. I realised that insed we are all a little slutty. We just repress it. Us sluts may be looked down upon but in my experience they are jealous. They may live a life of coming home from work and spending the night arguing over what bs to watch on TV but I arent. I'm getting ready for a night of sexual exploration. I've learned this as I used to look down on girls like me until I realised that I was jealous and had no idea I was. My jealousy has now been replaced with sadness that people arent willing to be themselves and experience an incredible exciting part of the human experience. I love being a slut and would not live any other way. Its 2020 people. We have more labels to tell the world who we are more than ever. We have no reason other than fear to be who we long to be so just so it. Once you have taken those first steps I promise you will never look back. I didn't. Thank you for reading this post. It means a lot to me. Feel free to ask me anything in the comments or catch me on IM and I will be more than happy to assist if you are needing advice or a girly friend for a chat. Until next time xxxxx Kara xxx  |
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Kara This is a WONDERFUL post! Thank you for sharing! Yes, we must learn to live without shame and be who we are! I am still very much in the closet at home  but do go out fully dressed when travelling  A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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3/12/2020 3:57 am |
Wow thank you so much guys and girls for such nice comments. I wish more people could be more open about what they like. The world would be such a colourful place if expression was truly free. The fear of others opinions is so damaging to us. Why should we care what others think ? If we are making ourselves miserable for others then change is needed.
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Why feel shame for doing something you love to do, you are an adult living her life so you like sex who doesn't , be proud if you are having sex some of are not and would love to
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