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I guess there is my fault there as well. Not having boundaries, being always available, never saying no to anything… we teach people how to treat us with what we allow them to do and tolerate. I should have known better. Many times.
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Limits are good in all aspect of life. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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8/12/2022 12:41 pm |
If you have a problem saying no to something you feel is inappropriate or unpleasant I would be happy to be your no person. Just send that person to me and I'll use an appropriate level of no starting with, thank you, but no. I don't feel comfortable with that, all the way up to fuck you, you stupid bitch or bastard. Whichever might be the correct vernacular. Trust me, I'm good with conflict and have no problem dealing with people.
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Ex, I don't know what it is you feel you HAVE to do for this person, but if you are not completely comfortable with it. REFUSE. It sounds to me, she is no better than a predator luring you into something you wouldn't normally do by doing you a favor. The fact that a tiny favor became a big favor that unsettles you, and that she already asked for another tiny favor, is all I have to hear. If you haven't already, talk to scribe about this. I hope you won't regret your choice. Sometimes your word, SHOULD be broken, especially when you are being manipulated. Feel free to private message me if you want to talk about it.
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you can’t help who you are if you feel bad means you have a guilty conscience but then again you shoulda said no to begin w & not gotten taken advantage of after you fulfilled your obligation back to her for helping you! helping others is supposed to be charity w nothing expected in return those that expect expect to much outta life & are miserable!
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she has lost a friend. Given the effect this has had on you and your feelings, you might consider being very up front with your 'friend' and telling them how you feel about the entire situation. Be direct with them - people need to know the consequences of their actions on others. At a minimum, you'll get this off your chest and can move on without looking back. Go for it! Make Women Female Again
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You can't blame this on yourself in any way! There will always be people that given an inch will take a mile. I know I'm a giver but I've had people mistake that kindness for weakness. I've learned my lesson and never look back.
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Ex I agree with drm! Some people will always take advantage and we must set a boundary.... A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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A true friend would help you and not expect anything in return.
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