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ExNameForUse 53F
4243 posts
11/15/2022 10:32 am
Surrender *

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ExNameForUse 53F
5764 posts
11/15/2022 10:33 am

Photo: Jack Vettriano "SURRENDER"


mantis2014 80M
148 posts
11/15/2022 10:47 am

oh how very true .


ExNameForUse replies on 11/19/2022 4:26 am:
So I thought...

likeithot19 62M
6085 posts
11/15/2022 10:57 am

Never Surrender
give in... yes
they are different
Only you, can walk your path.
Surrender, is defeat
yet no one can walk your path for you...


ExNameForUse replies on 11/19/2022 4:25 am:
I love the path I am on, and wouldn't want to change it or replace for another... surrender was meant in a different context.

boh99 68M
3154 posts
11/15/2022 11:07 am

communication matters...


ExNameForUse replies on 11/19/2022 4:24 am:
Always.

jenny14 75T  
90364 posts
11/15/2022 11:24 am

Ex

This is a wonderful picture and quote


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


ExNameForUse replies on 11/19/2022 4:24 am:
Thank you, Jenny.

RobertBishop 66M  
2149 posts
11/15/2022 11:37 am

When it comes down to it, much of life is about showing up and being prepared. You should prepare for a meeting a new date the same way you should prepare for a job interview or for a new client meeting.


ExNameForUse replies on 11/19/2022 4:24 am:
The readiness is all - Hamlet...

RavenousRaven777 56M
380 posts
11/15/2022 12:11 pm

This really feels like we need to reach that level within ourselves first, before we can be that in a relationship for and with another. Set that self relationship on a solid foundation first, then seek another to help build that shelter on top of it. That’s what I get from it. Nice post.


ExNameForUse replies on 11/19/2022 4:22 am:
It all comes from within. That's where we need to clear the mess first and find peace...

rosaenaluin 65F
11049 posts
11/15/2022 12:44 pm

lovely writing, nice picture,
so true about us all, being brainwashed, into believing your partner is the one, responsible for your happiness.
You alone are that.
Going into a relation just so the other is responsible for your happiness, is a bad goal.

Communication is key.


ExNameForUse replies on 11/19/2022 4:21 am:
I agree with your words, Rosa.

bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4187 posts
11/15/2022 5:03 pm

Love is...
work on both parts
open honest communication w o holding stuff in or back
compromise
sacrifice
respect
patience
understanding
compassion
total acceptance of each other’s good bad fugly sides
sharing time space activities together
giving each other time & space as needed
being there for the other in all situations
having each other’s back
listening to each other then acting upon their needs wants desires hopes dreams goals so they can grow soar be happy
never ends
the little things
never jealous insecure negative desperate suffocating
one never needing to say sorry (that’s BS!)
never lies Denys cheats
in D/s its communication trust possessiveness complete ownership responsibility accountability protection devotion dedication love worship obedience servitude duty honor aftercare!


ExNameForUse replies on 11/19/2022 4:20 am:
Nothing to add here, BD. Thank you for sharing.

rondiri 65M
11185 posts
11/15/2022 5:39 pm

Any relationship takes work. It's never just perfect bliss.


ExNameForUse replies on 11/19/2022 4:20 am:
No, not at all... hard work it is.

drmgirl622 68F  
26134 posts
11/16/2022 7:55 am

In order to mesh with your partner, you must have the fortitude to persevere.


ExNameForUse replies on 11/19/2022 4:19 am:
To believe when it's not easy to believe is difficult but having faith, and hope is a way to go.

Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7021 posts
11/16/2022 12:33 pm

"Ninety percent of life is just showing up." __Woody Allen


ExNameForUse replies on 11/19/2022 4:17 am:
Though sometimes can be hard, the only way is to be persistent and patient... that's what I have learned so far.


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