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ExNameForUse 53F
4243 posts
1/23/2023 10:40 am
To Each Their Own

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ExNameForUse 53F
5764 posts
1/23/2023 10:41 am

“Everyone's a whore, Grace. We just sell different parts of ourselves.” ― Tommy Shelby (Peaky Blinders).


RobertBishop 66M  
2149 posts
1/23/2023 11:54 am

What's that expression?
"Now that we've already settled on WHAT you are, we can get around to discussing your price.....".


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2023 9:18 am:
It is an expression from TV series "Peaky Blinders".
And thank you. There is a price for everything and everyone. Lady Fate charges the highest when the time comes.

ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2023 9:56 am:
To put this in a different way, all our actions have a price. It is we who decide at what point we agree to be bought. As in the story of a conversation between a very sophisticated gentleman and a very respectable lady at a party. They are talking about prostitution, “Well,” says the gentleman, “just for the sake of our argument, suppose I offered you $1000—would you spend the night with me?” The lady, smiling coquettishly: “Who knows—I might very well!” The gentleman: “Now suppose I offer you $10 for the night?” The lady: “But what do you think I am?” The gentleman: “We’ve already established what you are. Now we’re just haggling over the price.” - found this long time ago somewhere and kept it as an interesting piece... and very appropriate at this moment...

Finally, isn't the negotiation one significant part of any dynamic and D/s in particular...

hobie14 78M
14 posts
1/23/2023 12:01 pm

Trust but verify


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2023 9:19 am:
It is what I did. The discovery was shocking.

uncommon1 66M  
1449 posts
1/23/2023 12:12 pm

Assuming that everyone masks their true
self assumes an ability you perceive in yourself
that I frankly doubt you possess.
Perception acts as a lens through which
we view reality. Our perceptions
influence how we focus on, process,
remember, interpret, understand, synthesize,
decide about, and act on reality.
In doing so, our tendency is to assume that
how we perceive reality is an accurate
representation of what reality truly is. But it’s not.
The problem is that the lens through which
we perceive is often warped in the first place
by our genetic predispositions, past experiences,
prior knowledge, emotions, preconceived notions,
self-interest, and cognitive distortions.


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2023 9:26 am:
"...the lens through which we perceive is often warped in the first place by our genetic predispositions, past experiences, prior knowledge, emotions, preconceived notions, self-interest, and cognitive distortions." - hence your perception, mine, Rosa's, Jenny's, Dreamy's... everyone's perception of reality is true for that individual for the all above mentioned reasons. I cant have your perception, nor you have mine... as we have different backgrounds, but that doesn't make one less true and accurate than the other. Just the opposite. And for the same reasons, our perception of reality is everchanging process.

And I could agree that as a dumb-ee blonde certain abilities are not in my possession, such as playing games, fake, cheat or lie. I am way to shallow for that.

rosaenaluin 65F
11049 posts
1/23/2023 1:01 pm

Thats a nice one, uncommon1,

It might be true, but, then again... true???
Mine or yours?


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2023 9:26 am:
It seems we were on the same page, Rosa

boh99 68M
3154 posts
1/23/2023 1:39 pm

we compartmentalize and protect


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2023 9:28 am:
Yes, we do.

drmgirl622 68F  
26134 posts
1/23/2023 2:01 pm

Even the sweetest mask can hide the most hideous of creatures.......


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2023 9:32 am:
It can, I guess... I know, actually, but inevitably time of revelation will come, sooner or later.

bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4193 posts
1/23/2023 4:55 pm

agreed we all have many layers put on many faces have many sides
no matter what face they show the eyes don’t lie so l can usually see or tell if they’re hiding something or not along w reading their body lingo...lil subtleties will give them away no matter the face they wear!


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2023 9:40 am:
Body language speaks volumes, and most experts agree that 70 to 90% of all communication is actually non verbal.
Albert Mehrabian, a body language researcher, formulated the 7-38-55% rule with the formula: total liking = 7% verbal liking + 38% vocal liking + 55% facial/non verbal liking.
So, only 7% are actually words

Personally, gut feeling proven to be unbeatable.

jenny14 75T  
90364 posts
1/23/2023 10:23 pm

Ex

This is so true! I have spent many years hiding my true self from predators!

This a GREAT post!!


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2023 9:41 am:
Many thanks for your kind words, Jenny.
Unfortunately, predators are everywhere and being cautious is an absolute must.

Plzrmeister 67M  
10487 posts
1/24/2023 6:18 am

    Quoting RobertBishop:
    What's that expression?
    "Now that we've already settled on WHAT you are, we can get around to discussing your price.....".

Churchill: Madam, would you sleep with me for 5 million pounds?
Socialite: My goodness … well, I suppose.
Churchill: Would you sleep with me for 5 pounds?
Socialite: What type of woman do you think I am?
Churchill: We’ve already established that. Now we are haggling about the price.


A quote/joke attributable to Winston Churchill

Might be what you're referring to?

Make Women Female Again


Plzrmeister 67M  
10487 posts
1/24/2023 10:12 am

As in the story of a conversation between a very sophisticated gentleman and a very respectable lady at a party. They are talking about prostitution, “Well,” says the gentleman, “just for the sake of our argument, suppose I offered you $1000—would you spend the night with me?” The lady, smiling coquettishly: “Who knows—I might very well!” The gentleman: “Now suppose I offer you $10 for the night?” The lady: “But what do you think I am?” The gentleman: “We’ve already established what you are. Now we’re just haggling over the price.” - found this long time ago somewhere and kept it as an interesting piece... and very appropriate at this moment...

Great minds think alike .... Isn't that what they say?

I think you're right.

Make Women Female Again


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2023 8:50 pm:
I knew it reminded me on something I read before and when digging through some saved stuff finally found it... now seeing we thought of the same, was like hey.. thats what I said 😊😊😊

(for some reason your commments show up with a few hours delay for me to see them, Plz, that is why I respond to you later, too)


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