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ExNameForUse 53F
4224 posts
3/11/2023 11:39 pm
The Cage The Key The Freedom

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ExNameForUse 53F
5766 posts
3/11/2023 11:54 pm

Random reading this morning with my first coffee... some words resonated more, some less, but in this process of finding my own ways as it seems my inner compass is broken and I am wandering through the labyrinth of thoughts what's right, what's not, what I want, what I need, moral obligations, etc... maybe it can be of any use for someone to read too... nothing spectacular, but then again...


jenny14 75T  
90392 posts
3/12/2023 12:40 am

Ex

Thank you for sharing ! It is very interesting!

Essentially, we can only control our own actions and thoughts !


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


ExNameForUse replies on 3/12/2023 8:46 am:
And even that is sometimes very hard to do

aliljaded 53F
8954 posts
3/12/2023 3:47 am

I love this piece. It's so true. The cages we build ourselves, and inevitably lock ourselves away in, are of our own doing. We almost always hold the key. Unless we hand it over to someone else. (which is also of our own doing)
It's a rough road back from that "locked" cage. But when we learn to value and love ourselves anything is possible.
I used to have a "type" of guy I would fall for. Everyone around me could see what a POS he was except me. I would pick the same guy over and over. Until one day, I finally got "IT." I found my key, unlocked my cage, and have been free ever since. I have to love myself more than I love anyone else. Or else it doesn't work.
Thank you for the fantastic read.
Light & Love~
~M

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


ExNameForUse replies on 3/12/2023 4:14 am:
I have been having some bubbling thoughts for some time now about the feeling of being trapped... like not living the life I want, need, and deserve in the end... I feel like a fly in a spider's net - my own life - trapped and - seeing no way out of it... but I am both, my own spider and a fly this time... I need to find the strength to rip off that "net" and fly away. Because this way, things don't work, you are right, M.
Warmest regards, dear M xx

boh99 68M
3154 posts
3/12/2023 5:03 am

people tell us who they are all the time by their actions, we just have to believe them.


ExNameForUse replies on 3/12/2023 8:47 am:
It is true, agree with you...

All4TheMistress 55M  
1569 posts
3/12/2023 6:40 am

Very well said!


ExNameForUse replies on 3/12/2023 11:29 am:
I thought so, too

chastityslutcd 58T
249 posts
3/12/2023 6:50 am

Absolutely spot on.


ExNameForUse replies on 3/12/2023 11:30 am:
It is, really it is.

likeithot19 62M
6098 posts
3/12/2023 6:54 am

Pretending not to see those flags because we so want it to be the way WE want it...


ExNameForUse replies on 3/13/2023 11:33 am:
Is that selfishness or a desperate need to be loved...?

drmgirl622 68F  
26143 posts
3/12/2023 8:26 am

We tend to allow ourselves to be caged and don't realize we're doing it. We tell ourselves love is there and hide from the fact that we know it is long gone. Working to love ourself is all important!


ExNameForUse replies on 3/13/2023 11:25 am:
It should be taught in schools. To love and respect yourself first.

Kahlan2 87F
285 posts
3/12/2023 9:56 am

I don't often comment, but your words today, said it all so well. Thank you for posting this. Always enjoy what you post.


ExNameForUse replies on 3/13/2023 11:26 am:
Thank you very much, you are very kind to say you enjoy reading what I post here. Sometimes my own words, sometimes borrowed, like this one we are commenting on now, yet they always represent whats on my mind... thank you.

grywolf2 73M
3123 posts
3/12/2023 10:12 am

The sad thing is that most don't realize that the cage they've built has no lock.

With courage, you just have to push on the cell door.

Great image Ex, it directs the eye to the lock, definitely locked.

But on your way which key to grab?


ExNameForUse replies on 3/13/2023 11:28 am:
The key is courage Sounds good and pretty much truthful.

On the way to that lock... well... we have to try all possible keys until we find the right one.

Sophie105 63F
209 posts
3/12/2023 12:09 pm

This is very well written and very very true. I know the feeling so well and am just now realizing that it is my choice how I choose to live, not someone else's. It never was someone else's, I think that is one of the most important things you can teach a child. So as they get older, they make choices that are a good fit for them, not just for someone's approval or some ideology. I was much older when for the first time in my life someone asked me what I wanted. Sadly at that time, I had no answer because I had never considered it. Better late than never.


ExNameForUse replies on 3/13/2023 11:30 am:
I can only agree with you that it is better late than never.
I am deeply sorry for not being taught to love myself and have respect for myself when it was the time for that lesson, at my home, from my parents, ... but we can learn... maybe in a bit harder way, but we can. If we want to.

bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4196 posts
3/12/2023 1:57 pm

Love is an unexplainable real thing you can’t see hear or touch yet you can see hear & feel it!
Love is work & if somebody really loves you cares bout you wants you they will make 1 min of time outta 24/hrs in a day to Mesg you at the very least!
Love can build a bridge
Love can conquer all things
Love never ends maybe transcends
Love is self sacrifice
Love is joy bliss contentment happiness warm fuzzy feeling
Love is heartache pain sorrow
Love doesn’t require apologies excuses or pay backs
Love can keep you prisoner or set you free
Love comes from the heart not the wallet
Love is the key to a wonderful life you decide which doors to open & which doors to keep locked & which doors to never to open!


ExNameForUse replies on 3/13/2023 11:31 am:
Lovely words about Love.

rydermantel 69M
25601 posts
3/18/2023 9:07 am

Thought provoking.


ExNameForUse replies on 3/18/2023 10:29 am:
Not for lazy minded


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