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ExNameForUse 53F
4226 posts
5/6/2023 11:33 am
Psychological Manipulation

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ExNameForUse 53F
5766 posts
5/6/2023 11:39 am

I presume some of you may roll your eyes seeing the title of this blog, as I keep posting about this topic (as well some others), from time to time...
The way I see it, it is a reminder for those who already know and have been through this kind of roller-coaster, and maybe will help others who are currently in need on that roller-coaster...
So, keep rolling your eyes , I shall keep posting occasionally about this , and we can all try and be happy and stay safe and sound, along the way, my friends.

Repetitio mater studiorum est.


Crankytoyou 71M
711 posts
5/6/2023 12:04 pm

It happens everywhere, every day.


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:19 am:
It does. Unfortunately. But we still have to talk about it. Stay aware.

shackles4metoo 72M
1047 posts
5/6/2023 12:07 pm

I totally agree with you. There are many bloggers on ALT.com who employ these practices. Not always in the kinky sense ... look at the political bloggers. Thanks for bringing this to our attention.


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:22 am:
You are welcome.
I dont engage in political debates, especially not here.
But manipulation, when it comes to groups, is a profound, highly developed, tool and way of controlling masses.

brandygirasol 55T
9437 posts
5/6/2023 12:39 pm

Dear Ex💋... How interesting this topic is thank you❤️.... My current boyfriend is a manipulator displaying many of the traits you describe. However in my case I'm aware of it I like it from him and I'm allowing it to happen. Fortunately I've been around and HE doesn't know it but HE doesn't have the total control HE thinks HE has over me. Thus if the rug is ever pulled out from under me-trust me I can handle it... Ha☺️


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:23 am:
Dear Brandy
I wouldn't expect anything less from you than this awareness you talk about. Which certainly makes you the one who is in control

subdude2Bsubdued 76M
364 posts
5/6/2023 1:04 pm

Nice. helpful blog post, Ex, I will keep its salient points and advice in the forefront of my mind.


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:25 am:
My pleasure, subdude.
Hope it will help to remember if and when needed.

rosaenaluin 65F
11071 posts
5/6/2023 1:27 pm

Great blog! Again! Ex.

I dont allways have the words, to explain what i feel or how someone makes me feell, BUT, i allways knów, when things like this is happening.
And i will run very hard in the opposite direction..

Maybe because of my lack of a decent upbringing, being manipulated by a borderline personality disorder person, it makes the hairs on the back of my neck itch, when in such company,
And, i will remove myself from such persons.
My instinct is still very much intact.

thank you, it is exactly as these patterns.


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:36 am:
I completely understand you, Rosa.
My 'problem' is my endless patience, and difficulty to accept that people who are 'emotionally' involved with you can be so careless, and with no conscience.
But getting there

rosaenaluin 65F
11071 posts
5/6/2023 1:29 pm

Oh, and most dont have a sense of superiority, but would love to have that.
actually, they are very, very insecure, deep down inside...


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:37 am:
Yes, they are everything but what they perform in public, Rosa. I agree

drmgirl622 68F  
26156 posts
5/6/2023 1:49 pm

I really liked brandys comment.......


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:39 am:
Me too
Wise Brandy
Beat them with their own tools...

likeithot19 62M
6112 posts
5/6/2023 2:18 pm

The narcissists are the same as you describe of the manipulators.
We are in a maze


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:41 am:
Manipulation is the basic tool of every narcissist.

grywolf2 73M
3131 posts
5/6/2023 3:20 pm

Always a caring and important topic.

If you reach only one unfortunate soul you have done a great service.


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:43 am:
Those were my thoughts as well, thank you.
And, to be honest, this is to remind myself as well

Artschoolgrad 47M
8803 posts
5/6/2023 5:01 pm

bravo! this is a great important post


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:46 am:
Many thakns Arty for your kind support!

brandygirasol 55T
9437 posts
5/6/2023 5:11 pm

    Quoting drmgirl622:
    I really liked brandys comment.......
Thanx Dreamy❤️❤️❤️


boh99 68M
3165 posts
5/6/2023 9:15 pm

at different times in our lives we become vulnerable in different ways.


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:48 am:
We can be voulnerable, and know how to protect ourselves by recognizing treats and signs of abuse.

MasterJP2023 58M
25 posts
5/7/2023 12:47 am

Very interesting blog ExName, not only relevant from the lifestyles pint of view but our daily life in general as well. In My opinion things are better when there is no manipulation involved. Even though I try not to be manipulative, but am forced to look at My own actions and behavior and self evaluate Myself.


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:51 am:
Maniplation is part of our life. Everywhere. With friends, families, colleagues... but we can work to become better persons, and to know to recognize when being manipulated and how to protect ourselves.

bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4210 posts
5/7/2023 5:34 am

good info!


ExNameForUse replies on 5/9/2023 1:51 am:
We all agree, BDD!


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