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ExNameForUse 53F
4244 posts
6/16/2023 9:49 am
Is The Grass Greener

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ExNameForUse 53F
5764 posts
6/16/2023 9:50 am

Or some people simply can not be pleased or satisfied anywhere, with anything or anyone.


DancingDom 74M
22595 posts
6/16/2023 10:21 am

I would love a good downpour here.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


ExNameForUse replies on 6/17/2023 2:09 am:
It's been the last 2 months of rain here, DD, so I would gladly send you some if I could

bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4184 posts
6/16/2023 10:41 am

happy TGIF Ex hope your day is good?
good post very true...happiness comes from w in
it’s really heating up here we could use some rain


ExNameForUse replies on 6/17/2023 2:12 am:
Hello, BDD, all is good here, thank you for asking... the good news is that my "innuendo" colleague who used to make some strange comments is transferred to another premise, so I don't have to hide in hallways and stairs anymore when I hear his voice... so that's a little win for the last week... apart from that, just trying my best to stay above the water
How are you, BDD?

grywolf2 73M
3117 posts
6/16/2023 10:44 am

Ex,

"Once you're old enough to actually look in the mirror and be honest with yourself, you start to discover that much of the problem is you."

Your thought speaks to me. Also, when you are that old you learn to not waste too much time staring at yourself in the mirror.


ExNameForUse replies on 6/17/2023 2:17 am:
The longer I stare in the mirror the more imperfections I see as I am getting older, the exterior has quite changed

brandygirasol 55T
9435 posts
6/16/2023 10:46 am

So True My Dear Ex💋..... However for some age brings wisdom in that regard...❤️HUG❤️


ExNameForUse replies on 6/17/2023 2:23 am:
It can look quite foolish when you see someone aging and not accepting the "new now", so to speak... I mean, some dignity in aging is, at least to me, somehow noble to see... but each to their own, as you say, some reach that wisdom, some not

uncommon1 66M  
1446 posts
6/16/2023 10:53 am

Most people mess up
something good.
Chasing something better,
and end up with something
worse.


ExNameForUse replies on 6/17/2023 2:27 am:
It happens, yes. Let's just hope they will in the end find that "better" they seek and stop hurting people along their search.

jenny14 75T  
90361 posts
6/16/2023 1:25 pm

Ex

This is so true! I , once almost was stupid enough to leave a relationship thinking this , but fortunately came to my senses!


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


ExNameForUse replies on 6/17/2023 3:04 am:
Jenny, hello... I believe we have all "been there, done that" at one point in our lives, until we reached that wisdom, Brandy mentioned, to appreciate our own grass and gardens

lighthouse4297 56F
1680 posts
6/16/2023 2:08 pm

Hello my friend, There is a saying. "Where you go there you are". This usually rings true. xox L


ExNameForUse replies on 6/17/2023 3:02 am:
Hello, L... that saying brought this tune to my mind... Hanne Boel ~ Cant run from yourself...

boh99 68M
3154 posts
6/16/2023 2:40 pm

I do think some are born with the "wander" gene - and just can't stay rooted ( not me ) but I've seen it enough


ExNameForUse replies on 6/17/2023 3:05 am:
very well said, Boh, I met a few, too... it seems they are just born that way.

DancingDom 74M
22595 posts
6/16/2023 2:53 pm

    Quoting lighthouse4297:
    Hello my friend, There is a saying. "Where you go there you are". This usually rings true. xox L
"When you get to my door, tell them Boris sent you"

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


Sophie105 63F
209 posts
6/16/2023 4:29 pm

Then again if you get the wanderlust, wander because if you don't you will always wonder if you missed something good. We are given choices and not all the information, so we make the best choice we can. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's not, we can't know until we try. Think of all the new countries that were discovered because someone thought the grass might be greener somewhere else.


ExNameForUse replies on 6/17/2023 2:30 am:
You are very right, Sophie, being curious and having that wanderlust is what keeps this world moving forward, but then again it is not really the way I see a relationship should be maintained. But I agree and accept it is something you see as the way to go. We simply are not all the same, and maybe that is the whole beauty...

likeithot19 62M
6074 posts
6/16/2023 5:49 pm

Usually the grass is greener due to more BS but there are acceptations, Tina Turner comes to mind.


ExNameForUse replies on 6/17/2023 2:57 am:
The grass on the other side of the fence usually looks greener because it is how we perceive it, it may well be an illusion and a fake image the "greener grass" is presenting and making visible... what I wonder is why looking at the other side of the fence in the first place instead of maintaining our own garden and finding peace in happiness in it...

ExNameForUse 53F
5764 posts
6/17/2023 3:11 am

"There was a poor sculptor Zuan in a county called Zhouzhi. He resented his hard life, sitting in the sun and doing grunt work for the royals. He prayed every day. After a long hard prayer, one day a fairy came. Zuan asked to become the ultimate master who couldn’t have anyone dictating terms to him. The fairy gave him a magic wand that will make him whomever he imagines to be. Zuan got the magic wand and imagined being the emperor of Xi’an. He has now become the emperor of Xian and starts having a happy life. One day, he went on a hunting trip to a distant forest. There he was captured by a group of cannibals who captured him and took him to the tribal chieftain. Before the chieftain could order to kill him, he used the magic wand to become the chieftain as he felt the chieftain was more powerful than even a king. He had a good life as a chieftain until a regional warlord started harassing him. The warlord kept demanding more and more taxes. Zuan used his magic wand again and became the warlord. His life as a warlord looked good until the day he was struck by the massive storm. The rain ransacked his troops and he was left stuck in the devastating storm with nowhere to hide. Zuan imagined becoming the cloud that caused the storm (as that was more powerful than the warlord). Zuan now transformed into a cloud and started wandering around free. Then hit up a big mountain and couldn’t move further. He then desired to be the rock that could stop even the clouds. Zuan now felt really strong as he was the rock that made the big mountain. On a hot sunny day, there were a big group of sculptors who came searching for nice rocks to carve. They started using the tools against the big rock of Zuan. As the rock started crumbling, Zuan imagined himself to be a sculptor. He became the sculptor once again."

Just a story that somehow fits the topic...


bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4184 posts
6/17/2023 6:57 am

lmao!...Zuan shoulda just stayed true to himself & avoided such hard ships but maybe that’s what he needed to be able to learn the lesson?!
m doing well Ex l gotta get my vehicle tags renewed get a new ph to start looking for a job again we got some huge boomers last night knocked out power for a bit thou tv cable is fried still not working!
I’m glad you’re work problem went away l only hope if we worked together that my flirtatiousness would have the opposite affect on you thou if it didn’t sooner or later I’d wise up stop making you feel disrespected & uncomfortable!
have a spanking good weekend girl!


ExNameForUse replies on 6/18/2023 2:46 am:
With regards to flirting, BDD, it can be a wonderful thing with some class added... with regards to Zuan... well, at least he found out who he really was and his way back to himself, some will spend their life restless looking for something better.

drmgirl622 68F  
26126 posts
6/17/2023 8:58 am

I must say I've always tried to stay true to what I love and it has been a rollercoaster but one I love riding.


ExNameForUse replies on 6/18/2023 2:50 am:
Hello Dreamy... we do things we know best, some will try to improve and cherish what they have, and some will believe there is always something better...

DancingDom 74M
22595 posts
6/21/2023 7:38 am

You commented above to another's comment; about seeing more of your "imperfections". Well we all change in our outward appearance as we age. Bu, to me we are like silver jewelry, we develop a patina, or we are like wine that develops more character and evens out in it's taste over the years. That wild raw taste or the gleam my have one, but it is the richness of the inner self that remains. After reading you a few years, and actually interacting via mail, I know you are reliable, consistent, intelligent, interesting as can be. Bottom line, you are one fine gem of a woman. You make the world a better place.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


ExNameForUse replies on 6/21/2023 12:40 pm:
Dear DD, I am honestly humbled by your generous kindness and compliments. Thank you very much. The pleasure of knowing each other for the last couple of years is mutual, DD. Thank you for always being a gentleman and treating me like a lady. I appreciate that more than my knowledge of the English language allows me to express here and now.
Thank you, DD.


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