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Do you have your kinks of this kind and do you care to share? 
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Words + Actions that jive = Truth over time builds Trust Words - Actions = meaningless drivel & empty like the wind l like someone smart open honest loyal stylish w a sense of humor
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I can relate to that and actions speak louder than words. In every working... relationship... those involved know their roles, that they agree to.. I don't want you to be high I don't want you to be down Don't want to tell you no lie Just want you to be around Please come right up to my ears You will be able to hear what I say Don't want you out in my world Just you be my backstreet girl Please don't be part of my life Please keep yourself to yourself Please don't you bother my wife That way you won't get no help Don't try to ride on my horse You're rather common and coarse anyway Don't want you out in my world Just you be my backstreet girl Please don't you call me at home Please don't come knocking at night Please never ring on the phone Your manners are never quite right Please take the favors I grant Curtsy and look nonchalant, just for me Don't want you part of my world Just you be my backstreet girl
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An interesting blog, Ex, though for some reason, I had a hard time fitting its expressed sentiments snugly into a D/s framework. Even though the blog is entitled "Kink,' and your trio of attributes--trust, integrity, loyalty--would be invaluable traits in both partners of ANY relationship, the blog seemed to be directed more towards the conventional/mainstream/vanilla stratum of society. Though it be true that on some intrinsic or fundamental level, a D/s relationship could be described as symbiotic or mutualistic--two sides of the same coin, it might be said--with each side/partner/party providing needful complementarity for the other...both sides benefiting from the interaction; but on a more practical and less idealistc level, the relationship too often becomes parasitic (where one party benefits while the other is harmed in some way) and clearly non-reciprocal/imbalanced, with one party, as you say, clearly "driving the entire thing." Though it CAN be possible, I would think that it remains more of a rarity that the partners in a D/s dynamic fall in love...at least not to the extent of being able to reciprocate asymmetrically or incongruously or differently in a kind of speech act of a tacit "love language," Most of the give-and-take in a D/s or M/s relationship is clearly of a mostly pre-established, routinized, and ritualized stripe. In general, I believe that a D/s relationship, the practical dynamic of which is predicated on an abiding quality of power and freedom disparities, can never , while this anti-egalitarian aspect obtains or prevails , evolve or transmute into true love, where, for example, either party, D or S could feel free and unconstrained to arrange dates for each other, without the other party's prompting or permission. I would have to conclude that the ability of two people in a relationship of asymmetrical reciprocities and, perhaps , even of differing spoken languages, to "understand" (and forge a deep connection between) each other by means of some ineffable "love language," could only ever really be possible in a vanilla or romantic relationship based on equality, empathy, and shared values. A purely D/s relationship , notwithstanding the enjoyment that can be had by one's involvement therein, is largely one that is artificially contrived or "theatricalized" for a heightened eroticism. A D/s session can only ever be a dalliance--a repeatable dalliance, for sure--but a dalliance just the same.. To find true love, I feel that one has to effectively break free or disengage from the"alternative" practice or the indulgence and its incredibly powerful attractions. I might compare it to one's effort to kick a drug habit. Love has a way of not happening on drugs, as well.. One can stay in a D/s relationship for the long term, for example, that of a male sub in a Female Led Relationship, or perhaps that of a male sub or hubby made cuckold by a promiscuous wife, but I seriously question whether love can ever really burgeon and sustain itself under those conditions., for the long haul.
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Ex These are interesting observations and I trust some-one until I don't I would not call them "kinks" but personality traits! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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My Dear Ex💋.....I always enjoy your particular take on things...❤️HUGS❤️
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You know, that word reciprocity has such a great meaning!
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knowing that you can trust another is beyond value as for reciprocity, the old joke always comes to mind... "If I say you have a beautiful body will you hold it against me ?"
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well you do have a beautiful body ( smile ) !!
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Interesting. I never really looked at us that way. As a kink, i mean.
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Interesting. I never really looked at us that way. As a kink, i mean.
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I love that illustration.
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