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Blogs > ExNameForUse > Thoughts of an Introvert

ExNameForUse 53F
4243 posts
10/17/2023 9:49 am
If you don't love yourself, at least a little...
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ExNameForUse 53F
5764 posts
10/17/2023 9:51 am

 When and how did you learn to love yourself? Do you love yourself?


JohnnyLightning 65M  
9678 posts
10/17/2023 9:53 am

 I have the Alice in Wonderland video and it's a classic.
Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.


ExNameForUse replies on 10/18/2023 9:14 am:
I could read it again... It has been more than 30 years since I did it

Vikingargo 68M
660 posts
10/17/2023 9:56 am

 When I learned I wasn't the center of creation. Take the world away, all that was left was me.


ExNameForUse replies on 10/18/2023 9:15 am:
Once I started loving myself a little more, most of my world removed themselves and found me awkward

DancingDom 74M
22595 posts
10/17/2023 10:04 am

 Ah the looking glass.
"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


ExNameForUse replies on 10/18/2023 9:16 am:

boh99 68M
3154 posts
10/17/2023 11:37 am

 it all starts with that kernel of "I am worthy of being loved"

I found it via faith - God loves me, therefore I'm worthy of being loved.

No matter where one finds it, it's a beautiful armor indeed.


ExNameForUse replies on 10/18/2023 9:17 am:
What bothers me is why while loving myself a little more, I have lost most of the people I cared for and they stopped caring for me...

Artschoolgrad 47M
8742 posts
10/17/2023 12:29 pm

 true but sometimes one needs someone to love one to help one start to love oneself


ExNameForUse replies on 10/18/2023 9:19 am:
I know what you mean Arty... even though I have become pretty insular and feel I have my peace like this there are moments when I feel incomplete and my need to love someone and to be loved by someone else just keeps poking me from the inside...

grywolf2 73M
3117 posts
10/17/2023 1:14 pm

 I think accepting oneself is the important first step.

When you accept yourself the mirror smiles back at you, always a great way to start the day.
Besides, narcissists show us that too much love of yourself can be unhealthy.


ExNameForUse replies on 10/18/2023 9:22 am:
I was thinking of a healthy love one can feel for oneself... you know... not neglecting your needs, respecting your own boundaries, etc... what makes me sad is that after I started loving myself a little more, many of those I considered my close ones, have gone under various excuses... I was not good for them anymore...

drmgirl622 68F  
26126 posts
10/17/2023 1:27 pm

 After my last vanilla relationship, quite a few years ago, I really suffered. I told myself that no one would ever love me like I do. Oh, I've found love but not like the love I have for myself.


ExNameForUse replies on 10/18/2023 9:26 am:
I am still learning to take care of myself and show some love and appreciation for myself without guilt and questioning every little thing if it was too much, needed, etc... and I have lost some people I believed we had solid bonds and relationships the moment I started showing some self-respect and not only respecting them, their time, their needs, etc...

bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4184 posts
10/18/2023 5:45 am

 yes I do have love for you Ex big squeeze girl
nobody can love others w o first knowing & loving themselves
I’ve both hated & fell in love w myself many times over the yrs! lol
have a great day gorgeous you are worthy!


ExNameForUse replies on 10/19/2023 1:22 pm:
I do have love for you too, BDD

BldBvrsareGr8 67M
260 posts
10/19/2023 5:08 am

 Very well said!


ExNameForUse replies on 10/19/2023 1:22 pm:
Thank you.

jenny14 75T  
90361 posts
10/19/2023 9:21 pm

 Ex

It is true! Unless we love ourselves, others won't !

A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


ExNameForUse replies on 10/20/2023 1:44 pm:
So they say, dear Jenny... I don't know how that really works, to be honest


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