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I am an older woman. And I don't mind being considered a shallow one, but I will never understand why older men keep chasing young/er ladies even though they claim to have a content-filled, happy relationship with an older woman. I am aware of my age, and the advantages but also the disadvantages of that age. How come older men think they will be attractive to younger girls with all the disadvantages of their age? Do they think those younger girls will be interested in anything with them unless they are very wealthy, but even then... I mean... do they think they can offer her just anything that she needs as a young lady... she probably can't even recognize the signs of a heart attack, which would be highly recommended... considering their age... yet, they will keep chasing them... instead of cherishing and strengthening the bond within the relationship they already have enjoying every little bit of it... will never understand that phenomenon.
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Thanks for a bit of wisdom.
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Well you area younger woman. I'd chase you till I was 105. Younger is nice to look at, share youthful things. But catching one under 50, nope I am sure it would kill me  "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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A Father was up watching a movie when his daughter came home from a date. She brought her date in too meet her Dad, after the date left. She asked her Dad what He thought of her date? To which he replied, "You need to be a cop." To which She replied "I don't want to be a cop, why do you say that?" He replied, "You chase the same people." Maybe, there is a similarity here... the man wants young and beautiful, the woman wants a bad boy... neither wants to settle I agree with DancingDom!
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I will never understand why older men keep chasing young/er ladies There's a simple explanation for that..... They want to live in a cheap house, drive a junk car, sleep on a sofa bed, and watch a 10-inch black and white TV. Elementary my dear Watson ..... Make Women Female Again
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My favorite line is from the movie Moonstruck. Olympia Dukakis asks her husband why men chase younger women. When he fails to answer she tells him "You fear death, yes that's it, you fear death".
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I am an older woman. And I don't mind being considered a shallow one, but I will never understand why older men keep chasing young/er ladies even though they claim to have a content-filled, happy relationship with an older woman. I am aware of my age, and the advantages but also the disadvantages of that age. How come older men think they will be attractive to younger girls with all the disadvantages of their age? Do they think those younger girls will be interested in anything with them unless they are very wealthy, but even then... I mean... do they think they can offer her just anything that she needs as a young lady... she probably can't even recognize the signs of a heart attack, which would be highly recommended... considering their age... yet, they will keep chasing them... instead of cherishing and strengthening the bond within the relationship they already have enjoying every little bit of it... will never understand that phenomenon.
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Oldermen will say why buy the cow when you can get the milk free . . . An older woman will reply you don't have to buy the whole hog to get a little sausage! Happy New Years.
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Hahaha, funny story, but so... I can solve this problem, cough..... blush.... I think, those men, are never ever emotionally grown up adults... like sooo many..  ..But in their mind still the 17 year old boy..... chasing, their dicks, for the chasing.. so to speak... Will this solve this problem? LOL I never understood this behaviour, either.... It gives comfort to be in the same age range, to have some living done, behind the belly button.... To feel secure, with each other... know each other......
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You knon me well enough to know trustworthy, reliable, and an ability to take care of herself (not needy or greedy for that matter) are far more important. One notices those other elements in younger women. But plenty of women who are older have those same qualities. However, a good many of those older quality women are taken...a smart man will not let them go. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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Ex I love the story! His just desserts! I suspect old men want to recapture their youth? and, consequences be damned!  A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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one day I woke up thinking, there's a 60 year old woman next to me. Then I realized she's sleeping next to an even older man !
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Lmao!...it’s practically! women are like a fine wine...the older the better! happy New Year Ex big squeeze & a sweet kiss girl!
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Some guys just enjoy a challenge. I track deer, but I don't carry a gun. I just want to see how close I can get before they bolt. 
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awesome picture!
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I am sorry if it sounded like I meant all men are like this, and if I haven't put that specifically, I am a grown-up woman, not that bitter, to think they all are... either way, if this was your experience you wrote about, I am sorry you have been through it... I have divorced myself, but I have left that marriage and my ex-husband with my personal stuff, so a suitcase x 3, and a few boxes with my books, and left all we made together for those nearly 20 years... we are not all the same..." No, you didn't say 'ALL men', just older men, which I am, and I was older than my ex-wife by 3 plus years. I'm not 'bitter' towards women because of what happened, I'd say I feel as women do about the way 'civil laws' seem slanted against them in certain situations. I was told that I'd have to PROVE that my wife was someone that OVER imbibes, abuses narcotics, or is a street walking woman of the night to get custody of my children and I countered that comment with "So, what you're telling me, is that in the eyes of OUR ASTUTE legal system, I'm NO better than a person that over imbibes, abuses narcotics, or a whore, is that about the size of it?" and MY attorney's answer was, "That's RIGHT!"...therein lies my angst. And you're right, we are NOT all the same, everyone's different, and I look for those differences in women, knowing that there's opportunity for growth, and learning, with the RIGHT one. I CERTAINLY sympathize with your situation, it's never easy leaving under circumstances like you did, and you truly have to experience it to KNOW the depth of despair that comes with taking such a leap. You move on, baby steps at first, and eventually, like a 'butterfly's metamorphosis" you become re-born as that beautiful creature... ALL the BEST to you in the New Year, Ex, SINCERELY!
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1/1/2024 12:21 pm |
Yes, this is an older guy's problem -- and his family's which he left behind. I feel myself as a botcher with my comment because I never have been in this situation - neither as a perpetrator nor a sufferer of leaving a marriage. I have never lived in marriage. So, I think on onehand it is true that for some, the "challenge" factor plays a role. But on other hand, the leaving is more complex, more instinctive reaction. The key is in women's reproduction. Young can reproduce easier than an older one. This is purely biological fact, which works unconsciously deep inside. Never forget: people in the past lived maximum only for 40-50 year-long life. Only the 19th and the 20th century's developments made it possible to extend the lifetime beyond that age-range. I think the third factor is the mid-life crisys, which is called in Hungary (where I live) as "gate-closing panic". Men also feels that they are over their zenit on the same way as women. And they are panicking over it. In their panic, they think that this is the last chance for a new start to reproduce again until the "gate" (or time-window) is closing. The 4th is simply that the relationship did not work for some reasons and they wanted to get out but to a woman who don't have a baggage (such as former spouses, relatives, other connected issues). Usually the women makes a big mistake when they are not willing to listen their men's warning signals. When the man have to explain 4-5 times his point of the problems but receive ignorance from The Woman -- or worse, talking him down (this is a type of verbal aggression) --, the men will acts without warning: stand up and go. In this situation, the spouse pushes him into this situation of leaving. Things are not black and white. This is true in this case too.
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1/1/2024 1:13 pm |
I think not the chasing element, but the "hunting" is the appropriate word what you referred to. Some men loves to hunt. I think there is no connection of this with mother-son complex, max. Freudists thinks that everything is connected to mother-son complex in the world - even radio listening is connected to this complex (now I am a bit joking).
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