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ExNameForUse 53F
4245 posts
1/24/2024 10:39 am
What Would You Say

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ExNameForUse 53F
5764 posts
1/24/2024 10:40 am

This is not an easy advice to offer...


Tckg12 69M
2503 posts
1/24/2024 11:12 am

talk to me don't keep it a secret and i can help you with it. Be honest


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2024 11:25 pm:
This is nice and make sense... it is an open friendly invitation for honesty and being open 🤗

bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4163 posts
1/24/2024 11:24 am

I don’t understand do you like them as well or not?!
either way honesty is always the best policy
big hug Ex hope your week is going well girl!


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2024 11:26 pm:
Have great day, BDD.
Yes it depends on how you perceive the person who has crash on you...

IsoOnlineSub7 65M/56F
1548 posts
1/24/2024 11:31 am

Speak your mind and your heart. Nothing ventured....


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2024 11:29 pm:
Thats kind and encouraging 🤗

Plzrmeister 67M  
10457 posts
1/24/2024 11:34 am

Might as well let me know and see where the road leads.

Good advice .... One never knows what response you might get if you don't make your intentions known.

Make Women Female Again


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2024 11:30 pm:
Rational and makes sense, I agree.

kheaven 62M
54 posts
1/24/2024 11:36 am

a fun inquiry here
my response would depend on whether or not I feel some attraction to the crush-ee... and yet I'd have to consider, a crush is usually an immature kind of pleasure of the mind and heart, so I think I'd want to encourage the crush-ee to be cautious, responsible and, avoid reckless and potentially self destructive fantasy... oh my... the mind can think a thousand words a minute. .... but I'd be grateful, even if just flattered... I get crushes, and I'd love to think that those I get a crush on would be charmed, at least, even if I might likely not be their cup of tea


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2024 11:32 pm:
Thank you for your thoughts. They are pretty much matching mine... 😊

DancingDom 74M
22591 posts
1/24/2024 12:00 pm

I would say, nothing ventured, nothing gained; i.e go for it. Be direct. Don't just hint around hoping he will make the first move.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2024 11:36 pm:
Oh DD, this was not for me, like I have a crush or something... it was more what to say to somebody who has a crush on you, like an honest response to their 'crushing' on you.
I am having two guys, friends, that I know about their liking of who and what I am and they often give a call or text to go out for a coffee, dinner, etc... and I often wonder what would be my honest advice about that to them.

grywolf2 73M
3112 posts
1/24/2024 1:01 pm

Your mind is but an opaque and soundproof chamber. Approach him.
Make yourself seen and heard, and let him know that you are there to engage with him.

Your presence should be felt and acknowledged so that he can fully understand and appreciate the message you are conveying.


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2024 11:40 pm:
If it ever happens I have a crush on someone, I would probably follow what you suggested. I am a big girl and not into wasting mine or anyones time ...
But what to honestly advice to someone who has a crush on me... I would probably say something like darling, I am not the one, I am way to f**** up, and you dont want to know about it 😂

likeithot19 62M
6061 posts
1/24/2024 1:59 pm

Bluntly call them, ask them, about it...
If nOt interested, ignore them


ExNameForUse replies on 1/24/2024 11:44 pm:
My friends and colleagues say that I am the most honest and direct person they know, so what you suggested matches my temper greatly.
But I was wondering what to advice to somebody who has a crush on me, about me?
And I would probably go with blutant approach saying I am too difficult and complicated so better to just move on without that distraction in their lives 😁

brandygirasol 55T
9435 posts
1/25/2024 2:52 am

Well I would say first step is to READ MY PROFILE to see if I'm your type of SUB tranny bottom bitch- Don't just look at my pictures!!! Since I only get with experianced DOMs you must be aggressive when you start hitting on me...👄


ExNameForUse replies on 1/25/2024 10:48 am:
Very well said, dear Brandy

drmgirl622 68F  
26111 posts
1/25/2024 6:21 am

You have to at least try and hope for the best


ExNameForUse replies on 1/25/2024 10:50 am:
Me, personally? I don't think I will ever do that... but there are two nice guys who I know would be interested in something more... it's just when you know... and I often wonder when I see their texts on my phone... what would be my most honest advice to them about me... and then see where that would lead...

aliljaded 53F
8926 posts
1/25/2024 6:51 am

I would say read my profile as well. I would also say TALK to me. About life, music, art, the birds, or the weather. ANYTHING BUT SEX! I am a person before I am a submissive. I require mental stimulation. I think because we are on a sexual site, that fact is lost on many men. I need to be mentally stimulated before you have any chance of getting near my body. I am just as sexual as the next person, but there needs to be a connection first. I read this quote the other day. It said "She has a fetish for intelligence, her vagina has a very high IQ." I thought that nailed it.

I hope this word salad finds you well, Ex. xx

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


ExNameForUse replies on 1/25/2024 10:51 am:
Couldnt agree more with every word you wrote, dear M. Thank you for the great contribution I hope many will read and take into account...

And that quote... I may print it and frame it

JohnnyLightning 65M  
9672 posts
1/25/2024 10:52 am

Open and candid conversation is an effective communication strategy.

Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.


ExNameForUse replies on 1/25/2024 11:20 am:
Never out of date, Johnny!


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