Reset Password
Reset Link Sent
| Blogs > ExNameForUse > Thoughts of an Introvert |
|
Black Box This post is only viewable by Alternative Lifestyle Singles members. Join Alternative Lifestyle Singles now! |
||||
|
People would get so bored listening to my calls or reading my texts that they'd fall asleep and do a face plant into their soup. I hear ya .... Nothing juicy would be coming across my 'Black Box''. Are we allowed to text anyone else at the table just to make it interesting?  Make Women Female Again
| |||
|
I would beg off the game. I have a diverse group of friends and for good reason. I don't believe it would be good for the clash of the two worlds.
| |||
1/27/2024 1:31 pm |
If someone wants to look through my phone and check out all the photos, and text messages I won't have a problem. While I'm a private person and maintain a level of confidentiality, when I interact with people. There's nothing on my phone that would compromise me in anyway or embarrass me. If you're in a relationship and you are hiding personal information, or actions that another wouldn't approve. You might want to reevaluate your relationship. Withholding security or confidential business information is something entirely different. I've been privileged to business and government information that will never be discussed with anyone not directly involved. None of which I possess in document or electronic form.
| |||
|
Sounds like an interesting movie. You bring up an interesting question. "Sometimes I wondered if he left the phone unlocked, in front of me, with the proof of his cheating available... on purpose... do people want to get caught in their wrongdoings?" Sometimes hiding things in plain sight makes them harder to see or perhaps suspect.
| |||
|
Well Ex, you raise a very interesting point. For me, I have nothing to worry about because I have never cheated in any way on a partner, and I never will. My integrity is very important to me, and it is the ONLY personal trait/characteristic that can't be taken away from me, but if I fail to do the right thing, it is something that I can blow in an instant. Without that integrity, how can I be trusted by others. Now you raised the point of supposedly knowing your partner. For the majority of couples, most have secrets that they failed to tell their partners because of a number of reasons, and the biggest of those reasons is fear of being judged or embarrassment. I have had them just as you and others have had them. We don't want to really let them out, but if our partners stumble across them somehow, I won't lie about them and will explain them. The choice I have is to tell or to lie, and given I think highly enough of that person to want to be in a relationship with them, I will tell rather than lie, and I think most people will fall into this category, but others will lie which is not a good thing for the relationship.
| |||
|
Well Ex, on British TV there is a comedian, Michael McInyre. On his Saturday night show, he has a spot called "send to all." He has a guest on, they might be an actor, a singer, comedian, TV personality. He gets them to hand over their unlocked phone, he then makes up a text message, that he sends to all the contacts on the phone! He then reads out on television the replys that come back. The replys can often be quite funny, but I think it's very brave of the guest to let him do that. Of course some of the contacts are close friends, but some might be people like hairdresser, gardener, garage, cleaner, etc.
| |||
|
Nobody has or gets access to my cell phones, nobody. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
| |||
|
I would beg off the game. I have a diverse group of friends and for good reason. I don't believe it would be good for the clash of the two worlds.
| |||
|
Well My Dear Ex❤️ ....I certainly would not want anyone going into my cellphone😳.... Ha☺️
| |||
|
'Sometimes I wondered if he left the phone unlocked, in front of me, with the proof of his cheating available... on purpose... do people want to get caught in their wrongdoings?' I think COWARDLY people do exactly that, to avoid having an honest conversation with their partner that, in their mind, the relationship is over, and they've already found someone new. It's a SAD and HURTFUL world when people feel the need to do those sorts of things...as Billy Joel sang; 'If you search for tenderness It isn't hard to find You can have the love you need to live But if you look for truthfulness You might just as well be blind It always seems to be so hard to give Honesty is such a lonely word Everyone is so untrue Honesty is hardly ever heard And mostly what I need from you I can always find someone To say they sympathize If I wear my heart out on my sleeve But I don't want some pretty face To tell me pretty lies All I want is someone to believe Honesty is such a lonely word Everyone is so untrue Honesty is hardly ever heard And mostly what I need from you I can find a lover I can find a friend I can have security Until the bitter end Anyone can comfort me With promises again I know, I know When I'm deep inside of me Don't be too concerned I won't ask for nothin' while I'm gone But when I want sincerity Tell me where else can I turn Because you're the one that I depend upon Honesty is such a lonely word Everyone is so untrue Honesty is hardly ever heard And mostly what I need from you..." 1978 form the "52nd Street" Album It's NOT impossible to find, and becomes very disheartening and discouraging, and it DOES get more and more difficult to find someone who will offer, and follow through with, total disclosure and HONESTY.
| |||
|
I think many folks cheat, becasue they want to end a relationship sand allow themselves to be caught. They don't want to be the one who initiates the break up in an overt manner. Of course some cheat becasue it is their nature. If they get caught, they think so what, there is someone waiting in the wings. More and more, I see the younger generations having an expectation that their partner is going to cheat and that it is OK for them to do so too. No concept of propriety. No real understanding of loyalty, trust and honesty. I understand open relationships are different, but a so called monogamous committed relationship hardly seems to exist anymore. Just give me one honest, trustworthy, loyal, happy lady and I am going to be the same to her. Odds of that happening seem to be diminishing for me. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
| |||
|
Ex I too would NOT play that game , nor would I really want to pry into serets my friends wish to keep secret... I agree though that is it better to confirm something like cheating! I sometimes dream of being "caught" and not having to hide this side of me...and leave little clues A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
| |||
|
Hi Ex, Wow! Great topic and great answers. In my opinion, I do not think many people would play that game, unless it is someone who wishes to get caught ...badly! ...or someone who knows (or think) is clean and wants to learn other people's secrets. I think most people in this technological era must have probably gone through a situation similar to yours and who have had your same concerns or have been on the other side of the table from your. I cannot blame you for having such thoughts, but if I wonder if one picked up that phone and we do find anything, would one ever be able to trust again. Ideally, we would rather have the difficult conversation and not having to resort to sneaking around, but then again, this is not an ideal world. There are too many humans in it. I cannot and won't judge, but I do hope you do not have to go through something like that again. And since most folks here, for some strange reason, jolted and felt like they needed to explain whether their phones had to be pried upon, yes, anyone can come and check on mine.
| |||
|
I saw that movie Ex it was funny drama thou l would never play not that l have anything to hide l don’t want to be open w vanilla people l like having a darker side alter ego! lol I think they wanna be caught as they feel trapped & are too scared for various reasons to say how they really feel...a woman’s instinct is uncanny very accurate! tight squeeze firm pat kiss on forehead Ex enjoy your weekend girly!
| |||
|
i would be boring. nothing salacious or intriguing ever passes through my phone.
| |||
|
Not for me.
|
 |
 |
 |
| Become a member to comment on this blog | ||
 |
×
×