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How do you feel about this? What would you say if asked - tell me a bit about yourself, whether for job interview or when in some less formal, private situation if someone asks? Have a good and happy week, dear friends 😊
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I agree. That can often be the case.
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Depending on the "job" in question my answer might be to let my "lips"👄do the talking and perhaps the interview will be a "blowout"👅 .... Ha☺️
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In that situation I always started with "Well I was born when very young....." which usually bounced the ball back into their court.
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You are right for the most part. Employers want to hear that you are motivated, a team player, and a problem solver. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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I dont talk. I act. I find that moment of self promotion and self presentation rather uncomfortable. Why not lead with that statement? It certainly tells the interviewer several things about you. Yes it does and gets the conversation rolling ..... It puts the ball back in the interviewers court.....  Make Women Female Again
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I suppose you could start the conversation with "In my spare time, I'm an axe murderer". At least then, you'll find out if the interviewer is listening to you.
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Ex I understand your dilemma and the cartoon says it perfectly! I guess they want to see how self-confidant or arrogant you are? A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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I think you can be self-confidant without any of the arrogance that may creep into the conversation. If it's for a job interview, they already have your resume' so I think asking if there is anything in your resume' that catches their eye would be a good start.
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it is a trick question to see how you react...never tell them anything deep or revealing about yourself keep it light you go to church like to exercise luv sports! my stuff is in storage as I’m flipping a house to sell & like many l also have a huge crush on you enjoy your day gorgeous big arm squeeze!
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The first 35 years of my work life were in the Auto business. In commission sales, they are less interested in you as a person and more about you as an earner. Like an athlete, they throw you out on the field and evaluate your play. If you produce, you're valuable, if not you're thrown to the curb. I guess when salary comes into play, these employer questions make more sense. In this case, the employer is agreeing to pay without seeing results first and needs other signs to pick among applicants and try to evaluate how an individual might fit in the job. When I left the Auto business and had my own business, I trusted myself to prove my worth. Besides, easier to follow your own set of rules. 
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Jenny is onto it. They are not seeking info about you, they are looking to see how you react. That's what interviews are about. Interviewers don't listen to what you say, they are evaluating how you say it and your body language, that kind of stuff. I don't suppose this is encouraging if you already feel nervous or awkward but just remember, they don't know what the hell they are doing either. Mostly they are just working through a process and asking what they have been taught to ask.
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Back in the day interviewing for a mid level management job at Xerox or IBM was about a week long process and included at formal dinner with a VP. Embellishing one image wasn't encouraged, but here I was a heathen at a formal dinner with more silverware than imaginable an a background in eating with fingers. Wear the mask well or you don't get the job, simple enough.
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Well you certainly don't want to say what the young lady in the cartoon says, however true it might be! I agree with drmgirl, you want to come across as quietly confident, but not arrogant. I doubt you would come across as arrogant, but how do you sound confident? I seem to remember you mentioned your work once before. I don't remember the details, but you seemed to be pleased you had done a good job. If there is something you can do to relax before the interview, like, take a walk in the park, listen to some music. ( Just don't be late ). Think about all the times you've been pleased that you'd done a good job, or hit a dead line, or someone had thanked you for your efforts. The brain is a computer & as such can be programmed. Sports people famously remember their victories, but quickly forget any setbacks. You should do the same. So in the days leading up to the interview, when you go to bed, just before you sleep think about those those, good jobs, deadlines hit, or thank you's you received. Tell yourself, "I've done this sort of job before, I'm good at it." Several times before you go to sleep, preferably, out loud. Same in the morning as soon as you wake up. Think about your victories, tell yourself I've done this sort of job before & I'm good at it. Never, never, reinforce any faults you may have, either verbably, or by thought. For instance someone, might say, "Oh I'm no good at remembering peoples names." This just reinforces bad programming. You should say, "I'm good at remembering peoples names." It may not be true when you start saying it, but it will become true, if you keep it up. The one time when it is acceptable to lie to yourself. When it is to correct bad programming & make yourself a better person. You could add to your morning/night time routine, "I am quietly confident in my ability to do my job." Reinforce your good points, never, never, any faults you may have. After all, none of us is perfect, but we can all get better.
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Curious Always want better
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With regard to the question itself. "tell me a bit about yourself". Presumably your CV has things like age, martial satus, children ect. To me, asking about yourself, suggests things you like doing & hobbies. I would talk about what I liked doing & hobbies ect. For instance I might have mentioned that; 'I dabbled with computers & had built my own. That I enjoyed photography, developed & printed my own black & white photos. That I enjoyed going to motor racing events & airshows, & took photos at those events. ( I would leave out the fact that I used to get my girlfriends to pose for photos of an erotic nature. And I certainly wouldn't have mentioned that some of those photos moved on to what might be termed 'action shots', obviously. ) Always tell the truth, but you don't have to tell them everything. You might say something like; "I enjoy gardening, walking in the country & I love a good film." Assuming that is what you do enjoy. Or whatever it is you do enjoy. If they ask you, are you familiar with 'such & such' piece of software. Don't claim you are, if you are not. "No, I am not, but I am willing to learn." I think that you don't want to come across as desperate for a job, on the other hand you don't want to come across as you don't care if you get it or not. Keenly interested, but not desprate. I don't see anything wrong in admitting that you don't find it easy to promote yourself. If you think they are still asking about your ability to do the job. Something like; "I don't find speaking about myself easy, I have done this sort of work before & believe I am good at it. I consider myself to be a team player & I have heard you are a good firm to work for." If that is not how you would phrase it, you need to re phrase it to how you would say it. Because it needs to come across as genuine, so put it in your words, not mine. Only say you are a team player if you believe you are. Don't say you have heard they are a good firm to work for, unless you have. They might ask you where you had heard that. Good Luck - Hope it goes well.
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lots of great advice here! i hope your interview went/goes well. i do believe that true enthusiasm shows through. you'll be great!
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Thank you all, my dear friends, for all your wonderful thoughts and advice... it is so eye-opening and thought-provoking to read about all your perspectives and experiences, which make you all a wonderful source of valuable information.... many many thanks to everyone... you rock, my friends...  
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