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ExNameForUse 53F
4232 posts
3/18/2024 11:46 am
Acceptance

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ExNameForUse 53F
5739 posts
3/18/2024 11:50 am

It is hard to accept certain things.


drmgirl622 68F  
26060 posts
3/18/2024 12:39 pm

I've had those few times when I just had to surrender to the fact that things were done......nothing I could or would do would bring upon a change. It wasn't easy but acceptance saved me and allowed me to move on.


ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 7:07 am:
I feel as though I am going one step forward and two steps back... are there things we will never accept and always wondering if there is anything else we could have done or do... so hard...

brandygirasol 54T
9427 posts
3/18/2024 12:42 pm

Ooooooo My Dear Ex💋....I'm surprised ALT didn't censor you today for being too sweet or something... Ha☺️


ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 7:08 am:
Sweets for my sweet and dear friend Brandy 😘😘

MojoThoughts 63M
42 posts
3/18/2024 1:22 pm

Some equate acceptance with surrender. I disagree. I consider it acknowledging that some things are beyond (our) control. Maybe a matter of semantics to some, but not imho.
Be well,

May you find that for which you search and get what you deserve.

Mojo


ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 7:10 am:
I think even if we acknowledge certin things, like we are aware they are there.. still not easy to accept it is the way it is... I guess we hoped and wanted so much for things to be different, but they are simply not... and are out of our control

grywolf2 73M
3084 posts
3/18/2024 1:26 pm

I agree as long as acceptance is not rationalization.


ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 7:11 am:
Could you please elaborate... not sure I understand..., thank you.. I am sorry 😊

likeithot19 62M
5980 posts
3/18/2024 2:40 pm

As the Captain of your life, as we all should understand, we are.
It is a matter of perception


ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 7:12 am:
Didnt get what you wanted to say, likeithot, I am sorry ☹

luke_handyman 51M

3/18/2024 7:15 pm

Acceptance is not always easy. But you have the control to either accept what is, or change it.


ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 7:13 am:
I cant change it, and I find it difficult to accept it...

aliljaded 53F
8915 posts
3/18/2024 9:18 pm

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference

xx~M

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 7:14 am:
This is pretty much what I wanted to say... 😊
Hard to accept, cant change, lacking wisdom to let it be as it is.

jenny14 75T  
90304 posts
3/18/2024 11:31 pm

Ex

This is so true! We must learn to accept that which we cannot change but alter for the better what we can...


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 7:15 am:
Sometimes we can not alter things or people, only to accept that some things about them will never be as we would love them, wished for to be... and it is what I find hard at times.

Urekaa 68M
77 posts
3/19/2024 4:16 am

That is so true! Took a lot of years to face something in my past. Once I did, I opened my eyes and mind and accepted truths I had denied and have been learning ever since!


ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 7:17 am:
It is I suppose where I am heading to, but still a long way to go.. not an easy task no matter how rational I am. I see things, but I find it hard to accept them still... or I never will.

bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4117 posts
3/19/2024 6:28 am

our perceptions are usually different then what the reality is we perceive believe or want it to be…as long as l remain myself I’m perfectly fine!
big squeeze Ex have a wonderful week gorgeous l might get to finally eat this week!


ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 7:19 am:
I really hope you will, dear BDD. It has been a long time since you mentioned this issue... and I hope things will only get better for you 😊

grywolf2 73M
3084 posts
3/19/2024 9:36 am

ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 10:11 am:
Could you please elaborate... not sure I understand

Rationalization can act as a defense mechanism, creating a protective barrier against uncomfortable truths. In contrast, acceptance—when we truly see reality—becomes the fertile ground for growth. imho


ExNameForUse replies on 3/19/2024 10:38 am:
I understand what you meant now. Thank you.
For me it is hard to accept things about someone I love unconditionaly and still neither that love nor anything I do or dont do makes a difference about how that person is.
Hard to accept. It is not what I ever imagined it would be.


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