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What a way and thought to spend a Friday night... 
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I'm usually caught laughing too loud at funerals. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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You can give your body to science. I am going the cremation route The business I wanted to start was in that realm Burial at sea, is allowed So buy a 60 foot boat , 40, one big enough for a fishing platform and a viewing platform Put the corpse in the fighting chair, tied to the rod When the big one hits hit the release on the restrains in the chair and OFF he goes with the big one... I do know people who would pay to have this done to them
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Ex, Ex, it didn't take you long to delve into depressive thoughts after your arousing post. Don't want to dwell on this at present. After all, I'm still a young man at heart. 
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Ex I have thought about this a lot,because at this stage of life, I realise that I am getting closer to my day arriving, something you never think about when in your teens, your 20s or even your 30s. Yes I have a will and I have expressed my desires to my brother who is my executor. I have not thought about making it easier for others to come visit my resting place, I have thought about my life and the things and places where I was happiest and decided that I want to rest forever in one of those places. For those that made time to come visit, hopefully they would feel my contentment in life and realise that my resting place was special to me, and perhaps sit and contemplate. I have kids that I am very close to, but I doubt that they will ever come often to that resting place, so for you and your situation with your son, I would suggest that you organise what you want and where you want. I am going to judge you by what I see of your writings here, and say, you are a very well respected woman who has ethics and morals about what should be in life, and that you will have friends come and visit during their melancholy times of reflection. YOU will not be alone at your place of rest, and who knows, maybe your son will wake up to himself as he matures, and he will come and visit to reflect on how selfishly he treated you.
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Hi Ex it's cremation for me.. Burn me and then scatter my ashes in either my field so that I can help something grow or drop me the local creek and allow me to return to the sea, where I spent many many years while in the US Navy!
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Hi Ex, I'm not really good at giving advice, have ALWAYS been much better at taking it, depending on who was dishing it out. And although I don't have ANY clue about your family (parents and grand parents, etc.) to know about what you may face in your life ahead (medically speaking), I think you might be a bit pre-mature to be having heavy thoughts of how you want to be 'handled' in the immediate here after in the event of your death. Obviously, none of us know when we get that tap on the shoulder telling us we're being called home, and preparing for a funeral and having a will ARE things that folks start to think of in our later years. What have your thoughts about your death and a funeral and a will been before this recent epiphany? Did you see yourself being buried, with a funeral and all that goes along with one, prior to your recent thoughts? I had never considered cremation in my LIFE, as the Church did not lift the ban on it until the early 1980's and STILL to this day, disapprove of the idea of 'scattering of the ashes', but rather, 'uphold a rule mandating that the ashes of the deceased be preserved in a consecrated place'...I recall your post regarding your concerns about your son and your relationship with him, and concerns you have for him and that relationship. I recall a statement that was made to me by the father of a best friend of mine, years ago when my youngest brother was going through some very tough times in his life. My friend's dad said to me, "You know, it takes some of us longer to mature and figure out life, than it does others. It doesn't always mean they never 'see the light', sometimes you just have to be willing to be much more patient.' And I've never forgotten that comment, especially as it pertained to my brother. In the long run, unless there's some genetic family illness that could shorten your life, our you've decided that you haven't been 'REALLY LIVING' and are going to take up bungee jumping, hang gliding, base jumping, etc., I think, at 53, you've got plenty of time to consider how you want to be handled once your gone. Of course, making out a will makes sense as soon as you would like, as it can be changed/amended as needed, anytime after it's drawn up to the day before whenever you might pass. In closing, I will tell you, as others have already mentioned on here, you'd be GREATLY surprised who will attend your funeral, shed tears that you've passed away, and will visit your grave if you decide to go that route. I nly know you from reading your BLOGS on here, I've always looked forward to reading from you, and that you are someone that has the respect and admiration from others because of the way you carry yourself, ethically and morally in your life. Never sell yourself short, Ex, you are LOVED by many that may not express it to you, and will leave a void in their lives when you're gone...REMEMBER, It's a wonderful LIFE!
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Ex I am very sorry about your (lack of) relationship with your son!  I have made my Funeral arrangements and have a Will! Dieing intestate is a nightmare for those left behind! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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I need to make a will. There is a family plot for em. But not sure if I will use it. Part of me ways donate body to science. Part of me says honor my parents by being buried next to them. Part of me say, cremations and get my protons and electrons back into circulations faster. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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Funerals are for the living not the dead- their problems are over. Turn my remains over to the Veterans Admin because I don't want anyone I care about to spend a bunch of money putting me into the ground thank you very much... Ha☺️
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When my Mom passed away she made it pretty easy for me to follow her wishes. I was determined to not let my siblings struggle when my time comes, so I've already created a trust and cremation is my choice. I know my little brother will scatter me in a lovely place.
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as is life death isn’t cheap…they get you both coming & going from this world! lol I’m sure you’re son would take on things he’s Just going thru a rebellious independent phase right now l believe deep down he loves you knows what he has in you! I don’t have anybody no kids but l have talked to a nephew l told l wanted to be cremated spread my ashes in a few places give my drums to a good music school take whatever you wanted share my wealth equally w all your other cousins! big squeeze w firm pat Ex enjoy your weekend girly!
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After I dealt with my parent's estate, I made an effort to get my affairs in order. I have a trust, not a will, to keep it easier on my nephew. Similar to you, I have really no one, but him, and frankly, I didn't want to saddle him with much to do. I have chosen cremation and will set that up here soon, since after my move, this was the last move I plan to make. I just want to be returned to the earth and leave nothing behind but memories. Ars longa, vita brevis - Art is long, life is short  
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I worked for a cemetery for a few years, they have great plans and programs for those without family. Be sure to have a will and a funeral plan and prepay for it both. Our youngest son was murdered last year and of course he had no insurance, no will, what a mess.
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SInce i wont be living in Holland, anymore, there is no need for the family to worry or organise anything. I hope, that when my last days (?) will come, i have the power still in my legs, to climb a mountain and go lie there, for the birds to do their job. The indian way, the native way.... My family knows this, already... They also know, what music i like best, when they get the news of my departure... They can do, what ever they feel like... I wont hount them, for that! LOL
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