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The spring is most definitely here and tulips are everywhere. so today when I go out for a walk and to see my dentist, most definitely a bouquet of nice tulips will come home with me... and I can't wait to see them around... and, yes most definitely - You don’t need to forgive to heal. Not everything is forgivable. 
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Good luck at the dentist!
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My Dear Ex💋 ...Some people don't deserve forgiveness... ❤️HUGS❤️
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It's ALWAYS taken me more than a while to forgive someone for a wrong they've committed against me, and I'm sure your last sentence in your post is VERY true, although, I don't think I've suffered such a traumatic event in my lifetime, personally. The memories of my worst times in my life all come rushing back when this topic is ever brought up, the lies, thievery, betrayals, and all the other 'WORST THINGS' in someone you never imagined you'd see and EXPERIENCE. But, I DID see and experience them first hand, and perhaps the 'forgiving' was SO hard because I know in MY HEART, I would never treat someone that way, making it all the more DIFFICULT to understand why I was treated that way. In the end, forgiving was really rather EASY, because I KNEW it to be the 'right thing to do'. But the person or persons I forgave never really seemed to care all that much, as if they had justification for what they'd done. And, so, they've been eliminated from my life, as though they never existed, no HATRED, LOATHING, or WISHING THEM ILL HEALTH, BAD LUCK, or their comeuppance, for vengeance is for fools. They ARE nothing to me, they exist but their existence means and IS nothing to me. I don't talk about them, good or bad, when the subject turns to discussions about them, I speak in generalities, without animosity, but also without praise, I'm neutral, neither FORE or AGAINST, as if speaking about PARSLEY...they are NO LONGER an ACTIVE part in my life, not even 'someone that I used to know', as if they never existed, we never met, and I'm at peace KNOWING I forgave them of all the bad things that they were responsible for doing that inflicted SO much pain on me, they have to live with that and continue to 'JUSTIFY' those deeds in their minds for the rest of their lives, I'm over it...
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you forgive for yourself to let it go move on never for them agreed some things are unforgivable yes you can use that emotion to motivate you fuel you keep you focused on something else drive you into another direction just cuz you forgive doesn’t mean you forget I luv tulips Ex big hug gentle kiss you can plant your tulips on me anytime gorgeous!
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There are very, very few people that hold a negative space in my head. They will not be forgiven but the lessons learned shape my day to day life. I love your tulips and my Easter Lily is taking quite a while to bloom 
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I'm glad to read you don't think everyone or everything needs to be forgiven ... You need not do any forgiving at all. Getting past things .... Well, that's a different story.  That lady certainly has some nice 'tulips'!  The dentist?  I hope it's merely for a cleaning and not a procedure.Make Women Female Again
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It's good to forgive people just be slow to forget. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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Transgression of most sorts can be forgiven over time. Otherwise it just eats on you. But, weather you do forgive or not. never forgets the transgressions occurred. Whatever happened, you don't want it to happen again. Others may show signs of what happened, hopefully we pay attention and don't let them happen again. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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I agree with bdsmDOMdaddy, You do not forgive them and you never forget... But you move on. Not sure if I shared a story with you but I will again. I moved on from my ex. To me she is dead, that person no longer exists for me. So I took my kids to a restaurant, back in the day, and some guy comes running over to talk with my son. He goes on how he had spent the day at the beach and my son's Mom, my ex, was there. I looked up at him and said, I did not know dead people go to the beach.... well... that ended his conversation with my son, my daughter NEVER looked up, but I saw her smile... Needless to say the man left my table
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Only thing better than roses on a piano would be two lips on an organ
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I said most transgressions can be forgiven. I should have added, some just should not be in my view. My first ex, when she had mental issues and became violent. I realized I did not need to forgive her for illness that endangered my life. But the 2nd ex, she lied and lied and had an agenda. It cost me dearly. I did not need to forgive her. I just moved on with my life and did not let it eat on me. Did I forgive her, there was no need, she was out of my life. But I learned from both situations. I have not fgotten and have ever since had my guard up. I don't know the details of what transpired in your situation, so the need to forgive..is something you have wrestled with and have come to a conclusion you that you do not have to forgive. Seems to be a rational decision that suits you best. Its good to look forward. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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I said most transgressions can be forgiven. I should have added, some just should not be in my view. My first ex, when she had mental issues and became violent. I realized I did not need to forgive her for illness that endangered my life. But the 2nd ex, she lied and lied and had an agenda. It cost me dearly. I did not need to forgive her. I just moved on with my life and did not let it eat on me. Did I forgive her, there was no need, she was out of my life. But I learned from both situations. I have not fgotten and have ever since had my guard up. I don't know the details of what transpired in your situation, so the need to forgive..is something you have wrestled with and have come to a conclusion you that you do not have to forgive. Seems to be a rational decision that suits you best. Its good to look forward. the outcome is how we continue on. Our whole life think about it that way
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Oh, I NEVER FORGET, otherwise I haven't 'LEARNED' a damned thing...
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I have a similar situation with my sister. Part of me felt I should forgive her, but then I thought, I don't see why I should, or feel the need to do so. Wednesday next week should be interesting. I'm going to my youngest niece's wedding. I shall be on my best behaviour of course, wouldn't want to cause any issues on my niece's big day. But I can't help but wonder how my sister is going to be.
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How beautiful. Much better than tulips on an organ.
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Ex I like the last paragraph and have used it in my life with some people! I hope you can do the same! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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), made me just stuck deeper in my misery. 
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