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Hints For the Men... or... Why am I so Complicated...? I joined this place a few days ago and it is a new experience for me. The messages I get are not few but I keep seeing this kind of way of being approached. Men list a number of things they are interested in, look at my profile and see things matching and then they ask me if, based on this matching, I am interested in meeting them or continuing to chat to know each other better and then maybe meeting them if I decide I am interested. I am a quite polite and I was also trained to show respect to Men and I feel I have to answer to all or most messages I get here. It also feels kind of hard to brutally reject a proposal. Maybe this is a woman thing. We kind of say no by not committing. I started to realize men don't understand the hints. Most men don't seem to understand the hints on either the attraction or rejection. Men would like to get a direct answer yes or no but we don't seem to be able to do it that way. Also we are not fully sure right away most of the time. We need time to process. But most of all I realized I don't really understand myself. I never got into a relationship based on a list of kinks and likes and matches with His list. Most of the time I didn't even know I liked some of the things he liked before He showed or made me do it. It wasn't the kink itself but how it was done and who did it at what specific moment. I got in relationships based on feelings and emotions caused by the presence and the attitude and the interaction with the Man. To be honest, if I need time to process probably is one of two scenarios. First one and most often is probably a feeling that something is missing and in the end if nothing dramatically changes it will be a no. The second situation is more interesting. Sometimes the attraction is too strong and I get scared by my own reaction. It could be easily be a yes with the proper interaction. Why am I so complicated...? |
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Welcome to the blogs. Best to you. May you get connected to someone who know ow to be respectful. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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9/17/2020 10:19 am |
It looks like you've been interacting with men that have a limited emotional and mental capacity. My profile only scratches the surface as to who I am and what I'm all about. If someone needs a compatibility check list they are quite shallow and clueless when to comes to communications especially with a woman. I would prefer to get to know someone as a real person first to establish a strong foundation for a relationship. Those men aren't interested in that because they whole objective is to find someone for sex and not aren't here seeking someone to truly bond with. I have had women get scared with me because I'm real, and I will change their life. I always tell women to be sure of what you want and to be careful what you wish for, because I just might be able to give it to you...I hope you'll have an enjoyable day and you'll stay safe..Rick
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9/17/2020 11:11 am |
I can honestly say, that this is a gent of note.....
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9/17/2020 12:59 pm |
You Be ar agood slut , knows you Will Be honest as a real slut for training to Be the best one , butvremember all men can Be wrong , so Be caln and let get over you the sluts training and you know iT Will hlps you , great f m
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9/17/2020 7:45 pm |
You are not complicated, just trying to find the right person to walk down this path with, every relationship of this nature has its own unique qualities, we are all looking for that elusive connection, we may not find it here but it is worth the effort if we are lucky to find it.
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9/19/2020 12:09 pm |
Lines can easily be tangled. Call it confusion if you like. Untangle them. Examine them. It might take time. But it will be rewarding and time well spent.
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9/20/2020 10:18 am |
I would love to play with you.
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9/23/2020 7:14 am |
I think I could work out all your complicated details. If you're not sure the answer should always be no. I've been telling women that for years.
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Well written piece and a refreshing read , especially for this site.
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Someone once said - Women need an reason to have sex, men, they just need a place! A kinks list maybe useful to get an idea if you have similar interests, or perhaps if someone is into something you really wouldn't want to do. But to just try & compare a list & think that you are going to agree based on that sounds pretty silly to me. What men need to remember is that a women always needs to be seduced. Just because they may wish to try something kinky, or being submissive, doesn't change that. "Why am I so complicated?" - you are complicated because you are ment to be complicated! You are a puzzle that a man needs to unlock. I wish you all the best, & hope you find someone with the intelligence to unlock you.
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10/1/2020 10:40 pm |
So. Nobody is trashing your blog post. It is heartfelt and honest. I was written by a true seeker. Congrats! It’s a lovely piece Keep writing. xo
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10/6/2020 9:27 pm |
Un tas de conneries
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this is just where i am coming from on this. i start with kinks, and if those are matching. it means i will want to know more about that person. and if more is good, i will want to know even more about her
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Welcome. Ann Claire This site, and others like it, exist exactly because Men and Women fail to appreciate each others signals and needs in "real" life situations. No reason to think it will be resolved by this relatively anonymous process. Stick to what works for you, be polite (many aren't) and be firmer if you need to be. Block any that won't take a hint. Here's hoping to find at least something of what you seek and yearn for  Hopefully you'll enjoy the ride 
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Hello I do hope you find what works for you . But do know that communication is needed for any type of relashionship. I feel getting to know some.one is part of exploring, if done well it will help build a strong trust base where you can explore,not just known but perhaps newly discovered kinks. I don't too many try to short cut things and come up short. Look forward to perhaps exploring more with you. Mr . Mike
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Interesting. You're learned a lot more than most. It is always better for someone to be in love with you than for you to be in love with them. It is safer for you and with less stress likely more fun. Being attracted is often confused with being in love. A friend with benefits allows for both to happen naturally. I've been there and no matter how I tried to discourage it, she fell in love (or she thought so). For me being in love with someone take time and trust. Otherwise arranged marriage would not be so successful. Likely more so than falling in love through attraction. Finding someone who enjoys giving you pleasure as much as they enjoy you returning the treat is always what I seek. Having spent some time practicing yoga, I've also found the subtle is far more expansive than the blunt. Then again I'm not a sadist in that I don't derive pleasure from giving pain, but from your pleasure. Was going to write but if you're like most standard members you cannot read more than one line. All the best, and I'm sure you're beating the men off with clubs, pun intended. Write if you feel like it, and enjoy, life goes fast and one should always cultivate friends who lift you up not put you down. Cheers
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definitely not the kink itself but how it was done and who with by the way i love your profile pic
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