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Dont Ever Do This To Yourself Please see post in 1st comment. Thanks for your interest. Enjoy. IMC Strive for calm, but through balance, not through standing still...Friedrich Schiller IMC1958 |
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1/21/2021 5:52 pm |
Don't Ever Do This to Yourself When I first got into the BDSM scene, it was clear to me that I was submissive and masochistic. Over the years, I met more Doms than Sadists, and somehow I think I started pushing my masochistic needs on the back burner. But there were always reminders. Telling me that something important was missing. I kept ignoring it. After I separated from my husband, I started to venture first into the dating world and then into the BDSM world again. And this deep seated desire, this overwhelming yearning to feel pain, came back with a vengeance. Now I know from experience, what damage some tools can cause, and I am shying away from those Sadists, who do not at the very least self-educate. So here I was in contact with someone, who has the experience, but is so very extreme in his ideas, and I mean extremely extreme, that I am too scared to follow through. I mean, I have this HUGE tsunami wave of unfulfilled masochistic needs inside of me. It is burning in my soul, and I fear, that I one day will make a wrong choice. That's why …. we owe it to ourselves, to not ignore what we need. Or it will come back to haunt us. Strive for calm, but through balance, not through standing still...Friedrich Schiller IMC1958
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Maybe not right for your age, be careful
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1/21/2021 6:21 pm |
It might be worth exploring where the deep masochistic need is emanating from
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I would suggest finding a sadist with some level of compassion and would be willing to start slow, let you learn where you are and where you want to be. You will never cure yourself of it, but you can explore in a safe and controlled manner. See if there are any support grouups around you where you could connect with the right person.
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I think I understand where you are coming from. I can think of two quotations that may fit the situation. When you come to a fork in the road, take it. __Yogi Berra Make the most of your regrets; never smother your sorrow, but tend and cherish it till it comes to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh. __Henry David Thoreau Now don't you feel better?
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IMC I am so glad you are being careful! Obviously, the time to make these decisions is when we are alone ( or with a trusted independant friend) and not in a horney state! Please BE Safe , My Friend! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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It is difficult, to and controle yourself and your needs & wants to let go. As a masochiste, i recognise what you say. For that, you need someone you really know very well, not just his SM part but as a person first! Build friendship, build trust, get to know each other, as people first! the long way trust, not the fetish exchange 'trust'. At least, that is in my eyes, the safest way to engage in all your masochistic needs and wants. Negotiate your limits, soft and hard, too. take care!
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I never knew i had those masochistic tendencies until a sensual sadist showed me the pleasures.
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... "we owe it to ourselves, to not ignore what we need. Or it will come back to haunt us." That was a great finishing line. Maybe I will use it as a finishing line for my blog posts. May I? I will make sure everybody knows it's from you! Maybe I take the Yogi Berra quote instead. When you come to a fork in the road, take it. __Yogi Berra
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... "we owe it to ourselves, to not ignore what we need. Or it will come back to haunt us." That was a great finishing line. Maybe I will use it as a finishing line for my blog posts. May I? I will make sure everybody knows it's from you! Maybe I take the Yogi Berra quote instead. I am considering to take this quote from you and put it under my blog posts. But since it is not originally mine, I will also say that it is your beautiful sentence. I mean, it is coined by you, so I would not do the right thing if I just took it without making clear it is not mine. you know what? I will take something else, thank you. When you come to a fork in the road, take it. __Yogi Berra
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