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The disappearing re-appearing act.... Blog starts in comments... ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~ |
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Well... If this is something you do? You probably don't want to read this... The anonymous nature of the internet really contributes to this. It's so easy for people to just "check out" after they manipulate you, conversations get real, or they just plain get off on your talking to them.. Which has been done to me by Dom's more times than I care to admit... I have heard explanations like this when discussing it with others... Don't take it personally, that's just how it is, it doesn't mean anything, just move on... And I always do. Until, these assholes decide to re-appear.. Days, weeks, and months later... And act like nothing has happened! Just continue a conversation like we chatted earlier that day. And seem genuinely surprised when I no longer have their contact info... This happened to me a few days ago out of the blue. We had tried to chat several different times. Then he would have a call, appointment, or who the fuck knows, and nothing, just silence... But this time after his supposed, sincere apology, things were going to be different. He wanted to really know me, because he is old school. After several hours the phone call he had to make, came up again.. To his credit he did tell me beforehand. But the end result was the same.. Several days have passed without a word from him.. I am far from perfect. But internet or not I have integrity, I believe in karma, and I have the fucking balls to do the right thing! I will NEVER just disappear on anyone... If I see my kinks, desires, are not compatible with yours, I will tell you... In a respectful, polite manner, I will contact you and let you know I prefer not to continue. Are these emails, messages, or texts hard? You better fucking believe they are! I will never blow up a phone or email with messages, asking why, or begging you to talk with me. Do I sometimes want to get my point across, and tell you what I think? Fuck yes.. But you "players" say goodnight, talk to you later, goodbye for now, then immediately block me. No reason, explanation, just because you can... The behavior I experience while trying to find my Dom wears on me, Every time I start to let down my defenses, I am manipulated again. Like it's a contest to see who can fuck me over the most... It is bullshit! I am not here for "fun" so you can fucking get off... If you really don't want to get to know me. Please.... Just leave me alone. ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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I think there is a new TV show coming on soon (if not already) about people doing that with on line or otherwise romantic endeavors. That is one reason why I won't do online role play relationships. It is just fantasyland. But anyone who wants to do such is welcome to do it on their own. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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Online role play?? Which I don't do, by the way... These are just conversations, which I can't even get past, lol... But I do know what you mean.. Thank you for your comments.. ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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What you’re experiencing and describing is simply de rigueur for the times. In current vocabulary terms, “it’s basic”. It’s not going back. We simply forge ahead. You cover this in your second paragraph. This also pertains to the “checking back in” phenomenon - weeks, months, a year later. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve read that on the Reddit blogs and other social media related relationship forums. It usually goes something like this....”sorry you’re going through this, but don’t worry or sweat it, he’ll come crawling back at some point, they always do, you’ll hear from him again”. Now, that’s assuming that you want to, if not, then blocking is the surest way to avoid this annoying behavior. Since we’re not going to change societal behavior, perhaps self preservation is the next best we can do. With enough experience, is there a quick and simple 5-10 point questionnaire one could create based on their own goals and expectations that could be administered to incoming suitors, early in the process, to possibly weed out the undesirable players? Something that would trigger an early warning system alarm in you? Something that would tell you to proceed with caution or take this one with a grain of salt? Is there a silver lining? If so, I suppose it’s that this is all taking place online or through texts. Imagine if you’ve met in person, fallen, caught the feels, perhaps even given yourself, then they up and disappear like a ghost 👻?!! Now that would be truly devastating and life altering. Conclusion???? I don’t have one, other than we all just stumble on as best we can. 🤷♂️
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2/14/2021 6:46 am |
Been through this as well. It does suck
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