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The double edged sword of our lifestyle... Blog starts in comments.. ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~ |
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Nothing here....so far. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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Is full of so many choices and possibilities. Our lifestyle choices are as unique as we are. And there will always be a niche for your particular kink or desire. And a acceptance that is beyond rare in life. Vanilla relationships usually don't reach the depth of a D/s, M/s relationship. Oh they try at first. With the new infatuation phase. But it doesn't last. Many times they stop putting the work in. So... when the sex is gone those relationships are usually in trouble. But us lifestylers can and do go the other way. Sometimes to the point of being consumed with our Dom's or sub's. In so many D/s relationships there is a deep love and respect for your partner. Where countless hours have been spent talking, taking the time to know each other, being with each other, trusting one another, playing, expanding limit's, and in general learning each other's secrets and vulnerabilities... Our relationships can last a long time. There are many widows and widowers on Alt. I have talked to quite a few. My last relationship lasted over 11 years... But ohhh no when our relationships go bad! We can certainly hurt a Dom or sub with the info we know. The hurt we can feel though is different from vanilla breakups, in my experiences. Where your heart feels like it's been shattered in a thousand pieces.. Where you have to find a reason to get out of bed every day. Just like you are grieving a death.. That is the dull edge of the sword for me. Finding the Dom who will never use the info he has, against me, even if we go our separate ways.. ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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pac This is so true! And, the constant fear of being "outed" is awful ! (I never sextext for this reason) A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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Ive been very careful with breakups. Dealing with the breakup can be absolutely gut wrenching and the outing is the ultimate stab in the back.
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The only out i do , is take one out to dinner, dancing, show or concert. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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3/7/2021 5:49 pm |
The only out i do , is take one out to dinner, dancing, show or concert. Into the woods I go, to lose my mind and find my soul.
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3/7/2021 5:53 pm |
I had one dom (no capital letter for this worm) try to out me when I was very young and just starting in the life. What he didn't realize is that I was pretty much a wild child who really didn't care. I also had a strong friendship base among those who made it their business to silence him.. Justice was swift, I do not necessarily agree with the methods now, but in my early 20s it made sense. That being said, since I rediscovered how much I need to submit, I have been very careful to protect my identity. Keeping certain aspects from any prospective Doms and ensuring that trust with those that have become more than prospects. Into the woods I go, to lose my mind and find my soul.
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Bdsm should never be defined on such simple terms as sub vs dom
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It all comes down to trust doesn't it..........Even if you give it and it is earned. The mind is very capable of throwing fits and when hurt, reason goes right out the fucking window for most people. I will blow your mind like a verbal John Wilkes Booth
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I can totally relate to your piece. I was in a D/s relationship that lasted fifteen years. When it ended (badly). I was devastated. It took a few years to dust myself off and get back up again. I feel the relationship I was in was different from any other I've ever known. Much different from any vanilla relationship I've ever been in. I also feel that anything worth having is worth risking it all for. I wouldn't change a thing about what happened and what I learned about myself in the process. Thank you for sharing. Be well. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Well fury.. Your thoughts are deep concerning why we come to this lifestyle? The reasons would equal the stars I imagine... I wish you the best of luck finding your submissive.. As far as alienation goes... That is way to complicated for my two cents.. Thanks for your thoughts.. ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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