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Watching porn together..... See below...  ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~ |
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I was watching a comedian yesterday when he was talking about this... As in a "good way and a bad way to watch porn with your partner".... Now... In a vanilla relationship this would make sense as a way to bond... Where you decide as a couple watching, the type of scene that would interest you both... Where hidden desires could be innocently brought out through a movie or clip... Then he talked about letting his girl make the choice... And how as they started watching she says, "Ohhh I don't like this one, his dick is to big"! The comedian made a big show of describing how he hugged her, and I about fell off my chair laughing! Anyhow.... Now he talks about a bad way of watching porn with your partner... While your fucking them!! In a vanilla lifestyle this is usually not acceptable or wanted by a female. Where a guy is fucking you, as he watches others fucking.. I wish I could say this has never happened to me, but I can't... But my example is where a Dom wants to reenact what's happening in a fetish porn scene. Our lifestyle is so beyond watching a porn movie to bond though.. We continually bond as our relationships progress... Through play and expanding limits, and communication that would make those in a vanilla lifestyle blush with embarrassment... The depths of our relationships make the vanilla lifestyle pale in comparison... I for one will never be a fan of mainstream porn.. I want to see restraints, hear moans of pain and pleasure, and just the helplessness of subs... That will always be the porn I want to watch... ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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 Slave rick
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4/24/2021 8:08 am |
Most porn, IMHO, is rather banal and even silly because the situations and behavior are so blown out of proportion. The dynamics are also usually not realistic which is why I believe a film like "Secretary" is more true to form than say "50 Shades of Grey". Creative eroticism in films is rare and seems best when shown in short moments and scenes. Just my two cents worth, but I understand what you're saying. (I think) LOL
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Our lifestyle is so beyond watching a porn movie to bond though.. We continually bond as our relationships progress... Through play and expanding limits, and communication that would make those in a vanilla lifestyle blush with embarrassment... The depths of our relationships make the vanilla lifestyle pale in comparison... - - Some of the things I like most about the lifestyle.
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The expanding limits hit home with me. I think limits are constantly evolving as the relationship deepens.
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I have watched porn with a partner, which led to sexual activity or at a minimum discussion about what we may or may not do. Have also sort of watched, but in a role play context of having threesome or more somes. But frankly, that role play kind of thing does not compare with actual interactions. But watching together is certainly going to lead to some frisky activity that lead to the TV being turned off. One of my partners, who worked part time in a video store (when those were abundant) would bring porn videos home. She was adventurous to say the least. Watching vanilla movies or TV led to some live role playing too. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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pac Another very interesting topic  I think watching porn can be a prelude to get things warmed up but , once a scene etc has started, I think the couple should concentrate on each other A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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