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Reality... Image...  ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~ |
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I believe I am a realistic sub.. My mind knows what I seek, even when my words are inadequate to express it... What I don't seek is unrealistic expectations... As in feelings being rushed and magnified in a short period of time.. Where guilt is used against how I feel.. Where comparisons of my past are misguided at best... It amazes me the familiarity some Dom's make almost immediately upon talking.. Where they want my online address or phone number right away. I have been told on more than one occasion; if you don't give me your number you aren't that serious about finding a Dom. Is a Dom always a wannabe, scam artist, or player when he says this? I don't know? But I have to wonder.. Why the big rush? Are they worried about me finding out they have no clue what they are talking about? Or do they think of me as some kind of conquest, if they can manipulate me a certain way? Reading blogs can help me many times... To keep me grounded. To decipher real from fantasy... Look... I love the perfect pictures and descriptions of fantasy like every one else... But I want real life... The everyday highs and lows of a real lifestyle... The obstacles, challenges, exhilaration, satisfaction, and closeness that continually evolves and progresses in a D/s relationship... Real life is messy with no certainty's for the future... No guarantees of any kind... Not like fantasy which is just so fucking perfect! I will take messy every time!! ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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I so agree about real life being messy.
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The art of dating - never mind seduction - has been lost on many wannabes or would be's unfortunately. They fail to realise the need to simply 'get to know someone', and go straight to the 'do as I say/get on your knees and virtually suck me or you're not a true sub/slave'. Go with your instincts and keep to your standards. Don't lower them to meet others! I wish you all the very best in your search!
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I think we all look for this. And yes, life is always messy and mostly dissapionting. There are many needy people. The smart ass, bossy doms are most needy, and most often the biggest of dissapiontments. Some subs I've met, seem to be of the highest character. I just treat those around me with respect. Someday, the right one may show up.
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I don't rush things, but don't mind chatting off site, the IM here really isn't any good, Different strokes for different folks I guess. I only use 2 chat platforms, so it's not a big deal to me. But there are a lot of fakes in both genders here.
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There should never be a rush. And beginnings should be about getting to know each other. Vid chats are better than phone calls just saying plus you can always block a creep from your skpye 
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There are so many fakes, that i came to understand that one reason some men wanted to rush off site, or to cam, or to phone, was simply to verify that I was not just a real person, but a real female person. This is a very valid point applicable to both sexes. Another form of verification is for the person in question to take a photo of themselves holding an agreed upon item. Doesn't require a phone #, offsite address or camming. Once each person is satisfied the other is real, the dance can begin. Yes, a slow dance. There is no rushing a relationship of any kind. Make Women Female Again
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pac With due respects, we are NOT 2 anymore , and , Yes, we may have strong libidos but we want more! A mental connection! Well said! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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Sorry - should be "21"! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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6/1/2021 4:16 pm |
LOL Maybe "2" is more apropos
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I think the main problem here might be that the number of actual "Dominants" on this site is quite lower than any can know. After all the fake wanna-be twits are weeded through, a girl can be left a little shell shocked and very pessimistic about anyone she's left talking to. talking to. Just my 2 cents "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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