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pac369 64F  
10504 posts
1/29/2022 6:20 pm

Last Read:
1/31/2022 6:29 am

Being ghosted...


Is something pac really hates!
After numerous days of chatting one just deciding t o disappear...
pac does not beg anyone t o chat with her...
You... just deciding not t o talk is your bull shit...
And pac flat out refuses t o accept she did anything wrong...
The really shitty part though... Is a Dom not having the balls
t o tell you they don't to talk anymore!!
So much for being assertive!!


~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~


pac369 64F  
12700 posts
1/29/2022 6:21 pm

How about trying NOT to be a asshole!

~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~


goodguy863 68M

1/29/2022 6:34 pm

I do believe there is a large percentage of people on these sites that are so shy or something that they fabricate a personality and when it comes time to meet they ghost you and go to the next person. It's a shame because it gives us honest and serious people aWTF attitude. I believe everything happens for a reason but you are right about the wasted time.


pac369 replies on 1/29/2022 7:57 pm:
While I hear you g I don’t think shy had anything to do with this situation. But I
appreciate your thoughts. And yeah.. he makes it harder for the next one!

bitch__Master 56M  
3 posts
1/29/2022 6:42 pm

what goes around comes around


pac369 replies on 1/29/2022 7:58 pm:
I agree with karma…
But I will never see it!

bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4172 posts
1/29/2022 6:44 pm

Karma works both ways girl always stay true to yourself!


pac369 replies on 1/29/2022 8:00 pm:
Thanks bdsm.
Not asking for sympathy…
Just venting!

JohnnyLightning 65M  
9672 posts
1/29/2022 7:07 pm

Sometimes you have to wonder where common courtesy has gone. It's frustrating.

Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 2:53 am:
Very frustrating Johnny!

Greybrow 64M
625 posts
1/29/2022 7:17 pm

Ghosting is way too common on the net now-a-days. I agree just a "hey I am not interested" can go a long way. Sadly, so many are scared to be honest but that is really pathetic. Good luck with future communications Pac.


pac369 replies on 1/29/2022 8:01 pm:
Thanks Grey!

I appreciate that…

masterkenny2963h 60M
42 posts
1/29/2022 7:21 pm

yes it is just sat some thing


pac369 replies on 1/29/2022 8:02 pm:
Yeah…
Unnecessary bullshit!

jenny14 75T  
90348 posts
1/29/2022 8:25 pm

pac

Probably some loser trying to get his rocks off by pretending what he is not..
.

A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 2:55 am:
Probably Jenny…

But it’s amazing how many think the conversations were sexual…
They weren’t. My blog is though…
If you know what I mean…

pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 4:03 am:
Sorry one choose your blog to make comments about me...
My blog was a bit forceful with frustration... Telling a Dom "he is a busy man" should not get you ghosted...

Again though, his comments, on your blog, are not really right...
Another Dom upset at me... Because he could not get what he wanted...
It won't happen again Jenny, as I blocked him from viewing anything about me anymore...

rosaenaluin 65F
11025 posts
1/29/2022 8:27 pm

Depending on what the topic of the conversation was....

I dont want to be rude... but!
IF! you gave this person enough wank fodder... ?
Do i need to say more??

It is still not decent behaviour, no matter what.
It is NEVER your fault. NEVER!
I am sorry this happened to you.
, warm hugh.


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 3:01 am:
If that was the conversations I hear you rosa…
But it wasn’t… A comment or two about a blog. The majority
of the conversations vanilla…
Because I do go out of my way not to talk about
my personal kinks and desires for a while.
They can get off on my blog pictures. But getting off on my
conversations is another thing anymore!

pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 4:04 am:
Thanks rosa...

Boggles2001 61M  
409 posts
1/29/2022 11:14 pm

    Quoting rosaenaluin:
    Depending on what the topic of the conversation was....

    I dont want to be rude... but!
    IF! you gave this person enough wank fodder... ?
    Do i need to say more??

    It is still not decent behaviour, no matter what.
    It is NEVER your fault. NEVER!
    I am sorry this happened to you.
    , warm hugh.
Nail on the head here Pac…there seems to be an increasing tendency for men to come on here and use it as wank fodder or to get someone to write them their own personalised erotic fiction under the guise of my wife wants to do this…how would you force her to do that and blah blah blah…

Once they have exhausted the well they move on to another sucker so sorry you got caught by one ,,.As you say Pac they are not Doms they are wankers….living at home with Mummy….


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 3:08 am:
I do agree Boggles…
But I didn’t write him graphic scenarios
or suggestions about anything…
To the contrary and probably his frustration I
went more the vanilla way…

My blog is often graphic with pictures and inner
thoughts relating to specific topics. That doesn’t mean
my personal conversations go there. I cannot count how
many Dom’s stop following my blog because I won’t get
sexual with them. Just saying!

ExNameForUse 53F
5764 posts
1/30/2022 12:21 am

Nothing I could add, Pac, what you already dont know. Just shortly that I am sorry it happened at all.


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 3:12 am:
Thanks Ex!

Not trying to garner sympathy…
Just venting about how frustrating it is
when this is done… As it’s so juvenile!

Do appreciate your nice thoughts…

IsoOnlineSub7 65M/56F
1548 posts
1/30/2022 3:54 am

Yeah, ghosting is a cowardly act and goes both ways. I remember one cunt who ghosted me after we made plans to meet and play and she just decided not to show or text or anything and then trashed her profile as well. Chickenshit little kids, if you ask me. I can usually tell these days if that is a possibility and just don;t take them seriously. Some people, you know?


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 4:07 am:
Yeah Iso...

I know...

drmgirl622 68F  
26118 posts
1/30/2022 7:52 am

There are times that the ghosting really crushes the ego after having conversed for quite some time. I say if it's not for you then just tell them.


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 9:02 am:
Absolutely drmgirl!

My last sentence to him was "you are a busy man"...
Not a reason to be ghosted I think?

And yeah it does hurt the ego...
My blog is emotional at times... This one is a perfect example of wearing my heart on my sleeve, and not really editing my words!

StrangestAlchemy 47M
68 posts
1/30/2022 8:05 am

The most absurd part of the digital age for me is this concept of "ghosting"
It has never been easier to communicate, yet people cannot muster the inner strength to simply say I don't wish to talk any longer?


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 9:05 am:
It really is simple S!

We had not exchanged personal info yet.
I wasn't going to stalk him on Alt...

All he had to say is, it's been nice chatting, but I would prefer we stop... It would have been much easier to take than being ghosted...

jaykay48 75M
11457 posts
1/30/2022 8:55 am

It is too easy to be stupid on the Internet. Sorry you met one of the dumb ones.


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 9:07 am:
Thanks j!

But I will never expect a 62 yr old Dom to act like a juvenile!
My bad I guess...

jaykay48 75M
11457 posts
1/30/2022 9:18 am

    Quoting jaykay48:
    It is too easy to be stupid on the Internet. Sorry you met one of the dumb ones.
Velcome. (Stupidity has no age limits.)


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 9:22 am:
I guess not!

LordMandrakeJB 68M
112 posts
1/30/2022 10:05 am

I've been ghosted so many times over the past 18 years, I've lost count, and am actually surprised when I don't get ghosted. One of the reasons I let gold expire this year.


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 3:44 pm:
I can certainly understand that L!
Thanks for sharing your experiences...

rosaenaluin 65F
11025 posts
1/30/2022 12:29 pm

So many idiots on here!

Even when you act all decent, civilised, talk about vanilla stuff, they still find a way.... Yuck!


pac369 replies on 1/30/2022 3:45 pm:
Isn't it something rosa??
It would be sad if it wasn't so true...

kalbi1231 70M

1/30/2022 9:30 pm

I wouldn't take it personal, it is not you. Folks from all side of the sexual spectrum simply do not care in this day and age about common courtesy. Seems to be part of our culture...especially because of the digital age.


pac369 replies on 1/31/2022 6:28 am:
Thanks kalbi!

I know... But deep down the "not knowing why" is frustrating!


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