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pomonagirl909 47F
280 posts
12/24/2023 9:26 pm
bad doms vs good doms: what the good ones know

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pomonagirl909 47F
165 posts
12/24/2023 9:27 pm

 Something that i try to remember about my BDSM journey: what is a limit now (or a limit with a particular person) may change over months and years.

For myself: i have to honor my current limits and parameters, because not trusting yourself is just a fool's gambit.

So, it is a balance of honoring my current limits, stretching my limits when the time is right, and evolving again when the time is right.

i have found if a Dominant wants to rush or force this process, we are not a good match. i need to go at my own pace, and only if i eventually feel comfortable with him.

Sadly, there are more "bad doms" than good ones so the good ones know it all takes patience.


rydermantel 69M
25364 posts
12/24/2023 10:33 pm

 Merry Christmas!


pomonagirl909 replies on 12/30/2023 9:13 am:
thank you! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you!

tittort01 74M  
50 posts
12/24/2023 10:34 pm

 A good Dom must know how to read his sub. Every person gives off signals and reading those signals does take practice. I like to train my subs/slaves to be pain whores, a woman who can be brought to a sexual climax from just pain. Thia takes time and reading my slave allows me to tailor her training so that she learns without doing any real physical harm to her. A good slave is hard to find and keeping her is just as hard.


pomonagirl909 replies on 12/30/2023 9:16 am:
reading the sub or bottom is imperative!

likesmatures 55M
4838 posts
12/25/2023 5:53 am

 A good Dominant for me
Doesnt have to be skilled

Or be Mr or Ms Gray

Then just have to care and have a real passion for the lifestyle


pomonagirl909 replies on 12/30/2023 9:15 am:
i think that certain skills like flogging, rope bondage, etc. can be learned. But a passion for the lifestyle is either there or it's not.

alwaysassertive 64M

12/25/2023 7:51 am

 A really good dom knows how to cook, and enjoys cooking. I like doing all the cooking. When I cook I always know Im going to be eating something I like. She can be the desert.


pomonagirl909 replies on 12/30/2023 9:15 am:
ok and where do you live and what time is dinner?
thank you for reading and for leaving your comment.


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