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Special Post _ BDSM Contracts, what are they REALLY? BDSM Contracts - What are they REALLY? What they are NOT is legally binding. Whether verbal or written, whether signed and witnessed, they are not recognized by the legal system and a Notary will not stamp and sign them. If any Dominant tell you they are legally binding, WALK AWAY, better yet RUN. They either are uninformed about the history of slavery being abolished around the world, or are trying to trap you into a life as a slave by lying to you. What a BDSM contract is, REALLY is, is a consensual agreement between 2 people to engage in a relationship consisting of a Dominant and a submissive and including whatever sexual, domestic responsibilities and kinks agreed to. The "Contract" can be any length from a simple agreement such as "I accept so-and-so as my submissve / I consent to so-and-so being my Dominant" To a multipage document containing clauses and subclauses detailing every facet, limit, safe word, impact toy allowed and not allowed, Scene play days, disciplines, rewards and everything else under the sun that can be thought of. The KEY word is consensual. And consent can be withdrawn at anytime and for any reason. If you withdraw consent and are prevented from leaving or forced to submit, it is Illegal Detainment and/or Kidnapping, along with assault and sexual assault if it applies. Submission is by consent only, not by law. No matter how long, or short the contract, no matter if there are specified end dates to the contract, or agreed to reasons for terminating the contract written into it. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, the contract ended by either partner at any time. The only things that make the BDSM Contract at all binding, are the loyalties of the partners to one another and the 4 pillars of a BDSM relationship. Some partners forgo the contract and instead keep written protocols and rules posted or in a binder for easy reference. A list of limits kept handy and many times adjusted over the span of the relationship. The thing to remember is that no written paper keeps the relationship alive and continuing. That is done by the 2 partners being emotional committed to each other and willing to work to make the relationship successful for them both. Just like any other type of relationship I'll continue why I posted this in the comments |
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I posted this in the three groups I am in for BDSM on Facebook. Very well received, completely accepted... EXCEPT I just got finished arguing with a guy. Zechariah Rex, from Colorado Springs, CO He is adamant that HIS BDSM contract is legally binding, because he had his lawyer write it. He finally said, before blocking me: I Zechariah Rex: Ronald Dirienzo you know what your false bullshit like this is what gives the fakes and wannabes hope that you give them don’t believe a dam word out of your mouth any more. If any novice submissives are reading this. THIS IS THE KIND OF GUY YOU RUN FROM! When I listed above who says contracts are legally binding, I missed "delusional".
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No legally binding contract in BDSM is recognized as law.
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"BDSM Contracts, what are they REALLY?" I think of them as being more about communication. Helping both parties understand what is desired/expected. As is often said communication is very important.
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9/7/2022 9:00 pm |
Where can examples of "contracts" be found?
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