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Have you read or watched 50 Shades of Grey? Have you read The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy? The Story of "O"? The Emmanuelle books or movies? All fictional and fantasy. All the author's attempt to entertain. All the author's perspective of what BDSM is. And all HEAVY on poetic license... That means they made shit up cause it sounded good and was more entertaining than reality and would sell better and put more money in their pockets. Are their kernels of truth in the writing? Sure, in my opinion, Anne Rice captured the mindset of a sub/slave in her Beauty trilogy. But the rest of it was fictional and fantasy and over the top. I won't dissect 50 Shades of Mr. Grey doesn't exist. The BDSM lifestyle is about Reality. Yes, there is fantasy to play out in scene play. But if you think you are going to be swept away to a French Manor and indoctrinated into a life of sub/slavery, or swept off your feet by a billionaire with a dungeon, never mind being a sub/slave in a castle with Ladies and Lords training you and using you for their pleasure and amusement, come down to earth. BDSM has worries and cares. Sometimes there is a happily ever after, other times there is the reality of a break-up, the searching endlessly. It requires caution and care not only before giving consent or accepting submission, but also after. There are decisions in life that must be made in most relationships. Is the compatibility "right". How are the bills paid? How are new toys paid for? How much discretion will you have? Medical care and insurance choices, are among a multitude of things the books and movies never show. If you got into BDSM because of a book or a movie, the community will welcome you, but the fiction and fantasy need to be left at the gates upon entry and knowledge of the reality must be absorbed as freely as the fiction that got you here was. If not, your time in the lifestyle will be filled with frustration as you search without hope of the fictional ideal that was written only to entertain, not educate.
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Oooooo Sir Ron you've gone and shattered all my hopes and dreams and delusions of grandeur ALAS😥
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If we just be ourselves that is our own version of grandeur 
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Yes, all those stories are definitely visions of ideal situations from an individual's mind, but reality tests our commitment to this lifestyle. And there's where priorities kick in. I mean, I Imagine some people with all the money and power in the world could achieve a lifestyle comparable to these stories, but definitely not the regular Joe. That said, It's still nice to be able to enjoy a lush movie like Story of O.
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I'm not sure most of those fictional stories are "ideal". the writers have a lot to do with the happy endings. they found me mentally and I continued wanting to explore plus they were highly recommended when I was a newb by an awesome Sadist (the Grouch) at the time. then I found a couple of the John Norman, Gorean books which definitely lit some inside belly butterflies that I never knew I had. adds, one other book which was my very first, and favorite, Evil Companion (my first alt handle too) by, Micheal Perkins I can still remember asking the B&Noble store clerk for it. Anyway, I took it to Norway in 2013 and when I returned in 2019 I wanted it back. but, I refused to be a "taker backer." so in Norway with Max Faust it remains.
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Yes, all those stories are definitely visions of ideal situations from an individual's mind, but reality tests our commitment to this lifestyle. And there's where priorities kick in. I mean, I Imagine some people with all the money and power in the world could achieve a lifestyle comparable to these stories, but definitely not the regular Joe. That said, It's still nice to be able to enjoy a lush movie like Story of O.
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