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Chicken or the egg? Article in comments.  |
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Trust must come before obedience. It seems like this simple thought has escaped a large number of “Dominants” If you want obedience, you have to EARN the submissive’s trust FIRST. So many so called Dominants, right from the start, expect a perspective submissive to be completely obedient. “Kneel and kiss my boots.” “I am Master so and so, and you will do as I say.” What a wonderful way to introduce yourself to a prospective submissive. (Ya, sarcasm) What a wonderful way to show that submissive your total disrespect for them. (Ya, TOTALLY serious) I’ve posted before about the 4 pillars. Communication, Honesty, Trust and Respect. The above examples are examples of POOR communication skills in a dominant. They will rarely get to the Honesty part of the pillars, let alone the trust and respect needed to earn the obedience of a prospective submissive, Sure they will hit on a few desperate or naive submissives that will fall right in line. But it has been my hope to cut the number of naïve submissives that will drop to their knees for these demanding “Dominants” that don’t value the respect that should be given BY them, and not just expected to be given to them. Please remember, trust and Respect are earned and not something you give on demand. If a Dominant doesn’t show you any respect in the beginning, don’t expect any at all. © Ronald Dirienzo 11/20/22
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Good post! You can't be the leader if you don't build up a following... Everything takes communication..
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Yep, you got it. We always talk about communication and trust. Those of us that have been around for awhile have seen all of that. The ones that get me are the ones like you said that at a munch will walk up to a female and announce "I am Master so and so, you will call me Master." Most laugh and turn and walk off and he has no idea why.  Never underestimate the power of a female to put someone in their place. About that chicken or the egg.....have you ever wondered who the first person was that saw that egg fall out of a chickens butt and said "I think I'll eat that"  
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Absolutely true. I do not submit to someone I do not trust. But once you can... once you find that person, it's bliss 😊
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In order for me to submit , I need to be convinced my well being is your first thought. Even if you are hurting me, that you are not going to damage the toy you want to play with, beyond repair.
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