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So often I read a post about how the submissive feels that their Dominant “leaves” them or doesn’t meet the needs of the submissive, even though the submissive does all they can to meet the Dominant’s needs. To me, these are poor Dominants. When you take the responsibility of a submissive’s consent and devotion, the submissive becomes a priority, not an option in the Dominant’s life. Just like the Dominant expects the devotion of the submissive, the submissive has every right and expectation to receive the Dominant’s devotion. A submissive isn’t there just when the Dominant feels in the mood to play or use the submissive. A submissive has needs and wants outside of play or being used. They have feelings and desires that only require the attention of the Dominant, beside scene play and sex. Simple conversation, spending time together. No Dominant would put up with being ignored for lengths of time by their submissive. No Dominant should expect the submissive to put up with being ignored by the Dominant. If a Dominant can’t prioritize their submissive, they should expect that submissive to look elsewhere for a Dominant that will. As a matter of fact, that’s the advice I give to any submissive that finds themselves being only an option, not a priority. Even a Dominant with multiple submissives, must MAKE the time to satisfy the needs of every submissive serving them. No submissive deserves to wonder if they are worth their Dominants time and energy. They should always know and be shown they are appreciated and are a priority. © 12/7/22 Ronald Dirienzo
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I whole hardheartedly agree.... Don't know who this Ronald Dirienzo guy is but he does do some work.  
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12/8/2022 2:21 am |
I agree with you. If I, as the submissive am giving up my time to devote to a Dominant, I expect the same in return. My time is something I will not get back and therefore I expect to have my time taken into consideration as I expect myself to respect and fulfill their time. So it is with great appreciation that when my Master suggests meeting for a coffee, I do. He is giving up some time to spend with me and has considered this before contacting me. It may be for a coffee but even that time together is valuable. Well written. thank you for your time.
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I absolutely agree with what you are explaining. This is certainly my idea in an ideal case. However, as humans as we are, sadly, the interest diminishes until it is obvious that there is nothing left. And as a submissive, I know this is also a sad true from first hand experience. You are left with the significant disparity of how joyous and fun it was and how alive you felt in the beginning, and how hollow you felt as the interest of you Dom to wane no matter what you do. And I understand I have learned to understand, accept and even expect that part of the relationship. That said, the one part that it still unsettling to me is once you get to this point and it becomes obvious to both parties, why leave the submissive lingering? Just say it. Be clear and fair. I know some times, I think, it is pure laziness, carelessness and/or arrogance; some times, I truly believe it's because of the fear of breaking a heart. But the truth is that the heart, at some point will be even more will be painfully and slow broken as the inevitable occurs. But by being clear and fair in time, at least, dignity and respect may still be saved. Or maybe I'm just a whiner LOL!  ...sorry, Ron, I hope I didn't strayed too far from your line of thought. Like I said, I truly believe on all exactly as you said it as it should be at the course of a relationship; I just only shared my thought on the case the genuine interest by one or both parties is lost beyond recovery. Thank you for sharing, Ron, as it gives people hope to see that there are individual who still regard a relationship this way and makes the perennial search worth continuing 
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Sir Ron I agree with much of what you are saying EXCEPT some of us submissive slaves don't need very little ",coddling" ... Ha👅
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Like any other life form you decide to take on , you need to meet their needs period
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Being devoted to someone you expect devotion from should come naturally. Yet not everyone has naturally given character and integrity.
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Good writing, rondiri, Alas, there are a lot of socalled dominants who really dont give a F about the wants and needs of the submissive.... I believe, those who do, are a rare breed Not many like that around...
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