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Rules are not made to be (unilaterally) broken article in comments |
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Rules and protocols are made by the Dominant and submissive together as they negotiate how the dynamic will work. Once they are agreed to, neither partner is allowed to just change the rules, or any agreement, as they see fit. That INCLUDES Dominants. Any rule, protocol or agreement change must be discussed and agreed to since it is changing how the dynamic works. No respectable dominant will change the rules, protocols or agreements unilaterally. Nor will they punish a submissive for objecting to changes in rules, protocols or agreements. Remember, the submissive agreed to a negotiated set of rules, protocols and agreements BEFORE giving consent to the Dominant. If anything is changed, consent MUST be obtained once again to the changes. NO EXCEPTIONS Punishing a submissive for not agreeing to or obeying changed items they didn’t agree to is abusive. If a Dominant demands the right, or continually changes items agree upon, the submissive should leave the dynamic since they cannot rely on the Dominant to be consistent, or able to negotiate in good faith. A Dominant DOES NOT “make the rules” in a dynamic. They are negotiated by the partners. If either party doesn’t like what is being negotiated, they can always walk away. Submissives should never fall for the line “The Dominant makes the rules”. Anything not consented to, is abuse, plain and simple. © 9/18/23 Ronald Dirienzo
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Another good one.....as usual....keep it coming..... 
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Well in my world the DOM makes the rules with the caveat we fine tune anything I find objectionable....😌
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well said! (once again!) looking forward to see all this advice compiled in a little book one day! perfect for the browsing table of the independent bookstore!
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Quite frankly any so-called Dom(me) who is not in control of themselves enough to follow an agreed set of rules should not be allowed within 100m of any submissive. In my mind that is not so much abuse as assault and should be dealt with by the appropriate authorities. Both to gain restitution for the submissive and to make sure that individual never gets the chance to repeat that transgression.
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Well in my world the DOM makes the rules with the caveat we fine tune anything I find objectionable....😌
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