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4/18/2024 10:56 am

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Compromise

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4/18/2024 10:56 am

In a perfect world, there would be no need to compromise. Everything you want would be that way. Everything you don’t want wouldn’t be included in life. Unfortunately, we live in the real world.
In the BDSM Lifestyle looking for a partner that is absolutely perfect in all ways is just about impossible.
There are so many different opinions, kinks, fetishes and traits that it is virtually impossible to get everything you want and exclude everything you want without compromising.
Whether you compromise to leave out something you’d like and accept something you don’t like, something has to give usually when we find a partner that matches up ”almost perfectly”, or at least close to it.
While it is easy to say we can just not do this and that because one or the other of us doesn’t like it, this compromise can lead to regret for the partner that can’t do what they would like to. And regrets can build into resentments.
It’s a little harder to compromise and say, OK I’ll do this thing I don’t like, if you do this other thing you don’t like. And again, it can lead to regret and resentment for either partner to do something they don’t like.
Compromises must be made carefully. You have to take into consideration just how it will affect you long term, not just short term. And compromises should be readdressed often to make sure regrets and resentments aren’t creeping into the dynamic. Just because you make a compromise initially, doesn’t mean it is cemented into your life or the dynamic. You can change your mind. The change may or may not result in the end of the dynamic, but allowing resentment to grow and fester will almost always kill a dynamic.
Many people think of compromise as an art form. You can’t do it lightly and you definitely need to put thought into each compromise you make.
© 4/18/24 Ronald Dirienzo

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