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Blogs > rondiri > My thought's, fun and fiction

rondiri 65M
7305 posts
4/20/2024 12:04 pm

Last Read:
4/22/2024 8:40 am
Develop

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rondiri 65M
11169 posts
4/20/2024 12:04 pm

 There are so many things in the BDSM Lifestyle that you should give time to develop.
Right from the start, you should give yourself time to develop the knowledge you need to even begin entering the Lifestyle. Without the knowledge you are at the mercy of the predators that are constantly looking for those that don’t know what they are doing or what to expect.
When you start seeking a partner, you should give plenty of time to vetting and developing a relationship and the basic trust you should have in a prospective partner before moving on to physical contact. If you rush the process you can easily miss red flags and information about the prospective partner that would warn you away from danger.
When starting a dynamic, you should allow time to develop a comfort level with the protocols, rules and agreed to boundaries of the dynamic. This means starting slow and building in all areas of the dynamic and not rushing forward as if you have known each other forever. Rushing forward doesn’t give either partner the time to acclimate to physical, mental and emotional limitations and boundaries and tolerances. You shouldn’t learn these from the most extreme backwards, but from the least extreme upwards so neither partner gets injured right from the start.
As you move forward, many things will develop independently. Like and disliked kinks and fetishes, protocols, physical limitations, pain tolerances and more. It is safer and more prudent to give time to the development rather than take for granted what your partner MAY be able to do, or you WANT your partner to be able to do.
A respectable Dominant will take the time for development.
A smart submissive will make it imperative that they be given the time to develop before consenting to anything. Never let yourself be rushed along and ignore safety.
© 4/20/24 Ronald Dirienzo


brandygirasol 55T
9431 posts
4/20/2024 2:00 pm

 It's my experience that DOMs are in the biggest hurry... Ha👅


rondiri replies on 4/21/2024 8:32 am:
Exactly why I put in the last sentence.

meltwill2 72M  
3794 posts
4/21/2024 12:08 pm

 "Exactly why I put in the last sentence."
Now if they would just read and understand what you have told them.....


rondiri replies on 4/22/2024 8:40 am:


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