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The value of experience in the BDSM Lifestyle cannot be understated. Many of the kinks and fetishes that are part of the Lifestyle have inherent risks and the more experience the person is with that activity, the safer it becomes. Now, everyone has to start someplace in the Lifestyle and has no experience. Just reading about activities or watching videos does not imbue a person with any experience. It only gives the knowledge of how it SHOULD happen, not how it WILL happen when you try to do it yourself. That’s why you should always start slow and simple in the beginning rather than trying something difficult with the activity. It may LOOK easy to do, you may be confident you can do it, but actually doing the activity may be a whole different story. Since injuries are not something we want to happen, starting slow and simple gives you the time to develop experience and grow into the more difficult and intricate portions of the activity over time. It does no good to boast you can do something, then when you do it, you injure your partner or fail at what you are trying. That is certainly not the way to build trust. It may be less exciting at first to start slow and simple, but it gives you a base of experience to build on, keeps things safe and builds trust. And those things will benefit you down the road with more experience, trust and excitement. © 4/24/24 Ronald Dirienzo
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Hey Mister RonDiri, hello. .. You make a wonderful point, the idea and the practice are different. So do you believe too that there is a way to "slow your roll, and make naughty play?" .. And most often, I .. feel this is done at the local BDSM place; there is play and practice. Lessons are often available prior to open play. And, the community members you meet there have likely been expressing themselves a good while, it is also possible to feel safer among the many. .. Right?
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ron, as usual, always makes very good points. Some do not like to agree with him and that is their right. Someone can always find something that they disagree with.....keep up the good work ron...... 
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That is why there always where MENTORS, so you could learn, have an apprenticeship, so to say. In the old days, the old school kind of thing, submissive were more safe in those days, Have an older, more seasoned D or M, to guide you, to go to with all your questions, to practise..... to LEARN! Now, most morrons watch a porn movie, their bloods stream goes to where there are no braincells, and insist that they have "knowledge"on how to.... what ever! A Freaking nightmare show!! Too ingorant to admit they are a NO NO SHOW and a danger for every new eager submissive!! TOO inflated ego to be safe, anyway! I rather have almost zero "experience" than have to deal with those ignorant, dangerous pricks!
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100%! when i think back to even the most fundamental basic things i/we had no real idea how to do well at the start—i shudder to think what might have happened if i'd gone right to some of the more complicated aspects...
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Good points as stated.
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