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Old Guard IS NOT the only way, neither is TNG see comments |
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The Old Guard way were NOT the first way of living the BDSM Lifestyle. So it is NOT the only way of living the Lifestyle. I learned the “Old Ways” when most people talking about the OG were still in diapers. My mentors, and I had a few for various reasons, DIDN’T all agree with every aspect of what “Old Ways” were. The OG started after World War II. It was emulated, not copied exactly, by emulated, by what was seen in Europe during the war by gay GIs, THEN it was adapted from the gay lifestyle to the heterosexual and lesbian Lifestyles. In other words, it was the “American” versions… PLURAL, of the European BDSM Lifestyle. And the European Lifestyle evolved over centuries. The inquisitions were exactly the Lifestyle, but the methods were sure copied when BDSM dungeons were made. The Marquis de Sade, and Chevalier Leopold von Sacher-Masoch certainly contributed the evolution of the BDSM Lifestyle. Go back further to the whipping rooms and grottoes of Ancient Rome and Greece. They weren’t called kinks back then, that’s a modern term, but our ancestors did have those that enjoyed many of the kinks we enjoy today. I said earlier that I learned the Old Guard Ways long ago. I believed and lived many of those ways. But I also DIDN’T use some of those ways. And guess what? It was frowned on then too. Submissives HAD to keep their eyes lowered, said the mentors. Submissive HAD to be silent until spoken to, said the mentors. But gues what else? NOT all mentors agreed with these rules. Not even all Dominants agreed with these rules. Some, like me, thought the eyes were the windows to the soul, and wanted to see the submissive’s eyes. Wanted to read the thoughts behind the look in the eyes. We wanted to allow the submissive to speak freely, though respectfully and not interruptingly, so that we could have better communication channels and less of a robotic submissive that was just there for commands. These two examples, of many, show that the “old way” wasn’t the ONLY way, or even the “right way” for every dynamic. The reason for that is simple. EVERY ONE OF US IS DIFFERENT. We don’t all interpret things exactly the same. We don’t all LIKE things the same way. That makes evolution inevitable with EVERYTHING, including the BDSM Lifestyle. There will always be those that say THEIR way is the right way. But they have no proof of that, or right to shame those that think differently. If you like the old way, live the old way, if life’s circumstances allow it. Not everyone has that luxury or even want to. Just about everything in life has rules. But just about everything in life has adaptations of those rules. Not only is there differences in OG and TNG. There are differences in “British” BDSM and “American” BDSM, at least some of the British Lifestylers say so. But hey, there are differences in rules for different baseball leagues, football leagues, Hockey Leagues. There are different laws for each country, state, and city. There are different customs by country, race and religion. How can ANYONE say there is only ONE way to live the BDSM Lifestyle? My favorite bit of garbage is that a brat is not a submissive, but a SAM (Smart Ass Masochist) is a submissive, even though they BOTH do the same thing. Act out for attention. They are the same, with different names, Period, end of story. The name evolved, not the actions. If you want to live in the past with what you THINK is the best way, it’s your choice. Enjoy yourself. But don’t try to shame people or tell them they are wrong, for adapting to circumstances, or evolving. Here’s a parting thought about Old Guard. Dominants didn’t have any use for a disabled submissive, and submissives didn’t have any use for a disabled Dominant. That thinking today would wipe out a big portion of today’s members, for no good reason, who enjoy the lifestyle by adapting and evolving. © 4/30/24 Ronald Dirienzo
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Nicely said.
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Hm familiar. I read this in another place recently and was considering it......
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